It has been over 3 years from our last dday. I have been doing a lot of self reflecting. I have come to the conclusion that I can not move forward anymore unless I get some answers from my H.
He says he has changed. His actions do line up with this, but I need him to be able to explain it to me. He says his thoughts are different. He is always questioning if his interactions with the opposite sex are proper. I want to know what they were before. I want to know how they have changed.
How can I trust that he is different if he does not have a reference point for them.
He was not upset that I have demanded this. He wants a little bit of time to think about it. He says its been so long he can not remember very well. He also stated he is writing them down, but it is not finished. He told me this morning when I asked about it(I originally asked 2 nights ago) that he has a couple things written down in his work folder.
He seems to be following through. I have been trying to be patient and give him time to figure this out. He has a bad memory, and it is hard for him to share stuff like this. How long do I wait for this?
I really feel I need to know how his mind has changed. I want to know that his mind is lining up with his actions.
Is this to much? I know peoples actions speak better than words, and his actions are great. I just feel I need to hear the detailed words, not just general statements.
[This message edited by Hearthache again at 10:50 PM, August 15th (Thursday)]
Married-14 years together 15
Kids 4: 17, 14, 10, and 5
DDay#1 9-26-2008 Dday#2 4-26-2010
We have R!!! But I still hate the number 26!
This too shall pass
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