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User Topic: What to do about email from OWs friend
roses303
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Member # 40161
Default  Posted: 11:57 AM, August 16th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just got a text from WH that OWs friend emailed him and said "she needs you to contact her, this is killing her". WH ldoesnt know what to do. I told him to forward it to me, delete it from his computer and block her email from his system.

How else should we respond? Head says no contact means no contact. Heart wants to let this friend know how OW treats friends since she set aside a 25 yr friendship with me to fuck around with my husband not once but twice in my marriage.


Me: BW - 46
Him: WH - 49
MOW: my BFF from college and good friend for 25 yrs
Married 14 years, 2 Tweens
DD: 5/20/13 2 year long EA/PAs (one 7 yrs ago and one this past year)
Status: day by day, in MC, working on R

Posts: 141 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: roses303
WeepingBuddhist
♀ 39139
Member # 39139
Default  Posted: 11:57 AM, August 16th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

crickets! crickets! crickets!


Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14

Posts: 673 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Columbus
confused615
♀ 30826
Member # 30826
Default  Posted: 12:02 PM, August 16th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So this friend knows he is married..knows there is to be NC..yet reached out to YOUR husband anyway?

Crickets to the friend. Crickets to OW. NC is NC.

Your WH doesn't know what to do? He needs to block the friend from being able to contact him..and not contact either one of them.


BS(me)42
FWH 45
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciled.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 8081 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
KeepCalm_CarryOn
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Member # 33374
Default  Posted: 12:06 PM, August 16th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


You are not dealing with rational people or situations. Normal thought processes won't work...story of my life.

Me- BW, 30
Him- fWh, 36
Mostly R'd, minus a few scars...bought a house and got a puppy...And baby makes 3! She arrived August 2013


Posts: 2044 | Registered: Sep 2011
BeyondBreaking
♀ 38020
Member # 38020
Default  Posted: 12:11 PM, August 16th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Don't respond, delete, block.

I don't care if the OW is on top of a 50 story building in the middle of the cuty threatening to jump if your WH doesn't call her.
NC is NC. Block the friend, block the OW, don't respond to either of them. Ignore, don't think about them and move on.


I have been cheated on by 3 different men, and I have more DDays than anyone ever should. I am here, just trying to pickup the pieces.

At least the current man "only" cyber-cheated.

"Love means never having to say you're sorry."


Posts: 840 | Registered: Jan 2013
StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 12:11 PM, August 16th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The worst insult is to ignore!
Nothing, and I mean absolutley nothing is worse than being ignored. Even outrage is appreciated compared to being ignored.
Now that I know what crickets is...I concur
Crickets crickets and more crickets!!!!


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2556 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
alphakitte
♀ 33438
Member # 33438
Default  Posted: 12:14 PM, August 16th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This person is not a friend of the marriage. They knew your husband was married, enough said.

Block them and do not respond to the request!


------ Some people are emotional tadpoles. Even if they mature they are just a warty toad. Catt

Posts: 350 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: 3 klicks north of Ambiguous
roses303
♀ 40161
Member # 40161
Default  Posted: 12:22 PM, August 16th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks, that was my first instinct and what I told WH to do.


Me: BW - 46
Him: WH - 49
MOW: my BFF from college and good friend for 25 yrs
Married 14 years, 2 Tweens
DD: 5/20/13 2 year long EA/PAs (one 7 yrs ago and one this past year)
Status: day by day, in MC, working on R

Posts: 141 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: roses303
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 12:27 PM, August 16th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"she needs you to contact her, this is killing her".

Send an e-mail to friend. Let us know when the funeral is. We'll go piss on her grave.


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 10083 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
StepAside
♀ 29826
Member # 29826
Default  Posted: 12:56 PM, August 16th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OW's friend is no friend to you or your marriage. She does not exist. *crickets* is the appropriate response.

**

Send an e-mail to friend. Let us know when the funeral is. We'll go piss on her grave.

Sister! LOL!


Me 48yrs, king of douchebagastan- 50yrs STD infected bankrupt NPD sociopathic drunk thief
countless A's, he is a predator that targets losers like himself
Last Dday 04/12/2010-Divorcing if/when his cumdumpsters lend him some $ or balls to file

Posts: 1522 | Registered: Oct 2010 | From: Ingersoll Ontario
niaveone
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Default  Posted: 12:59 PM, August 16th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'd tell the friend off first, then crickets.

The first time WS *said* he wasn't going to have contact with MOW anymore, he played a word game. They both text each other through her best friend and the best friend jumped right in and became the middle person, BF being married and fucked around regularly on her husband too.

When I realized this was happening I called the friend. Like a coward, she didn't answer the phone; but her voice mail got a wonderful message from me. I told her if she even remotely tried to get in the middle again, I was going to find her, publicly humiliate her, and tell her husband all the naughty details of her affairs on him. I also told her she was a piss poor excuse of a woman, mother, and "friend" to help the MOW not only destroy her own family, but continue to contribute to destroying mine.

That was the one and only time I called that woman, and let me tell you, it was the LAST TIME I EVER saw her number come across anything of mine or WS's again. To this day she turns white whenever she sees me around town.


Me: BS
Him: WS
Married: 17 years
2 children
2 DDays
Reconciling

Posts: 310 | Registered: Aug 2013
GabyBaby
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Member # 26928
Default  Posted: 1:13 PM, August 16th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Send an e-mail to friend. Let us know when the funeral is. We'll go piss on her grave.
ROFLMAO!!

If you have to send a response, that would be the one!
But in all honesty, delete, block, and ignore.
The OW, her friends, and the ensuing drama are not a part of your life anymore.


Me - 42
SorryInSac (STBX WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Done

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity/typos.


Posts: 6736 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
HFSSC
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Member # 33338
Default  Posted: 1:14 PM, August 16th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

1. Print the email.

2. Wipe your ass with it.

3. Place in envelope and mail to the person who sent it. Enclose a note that you do not wish any further contact and will treat any further contact as harassment.


Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 18 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

Posts: 2936 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: South Carolina
StillLivin
♀ 40229
Member # 40229
Default  Posted: 2:30 PM, August 16th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

2. Wipe your ass with it.

HFSSC

OMG I died on the floor laughing so hard. Had to hit my inhaler just to breathe right again!
ROFLMAO X2


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2556 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
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