Nearly ExH did this, too. Sat right in the house we built together and created online profiles, hid porn and hid texting when he "got lucky".
Rewrote our marriage into a bad one to justify his lack of boundaries and then defended his and OW's actions to me and yelled at me.
Now if confronted, tries to minimize or catch me at something he can discredit me for.
The ultimate was when we woke up several times and he was gone, snuck out in the middle of the night and we know to where. His own wife and child, abandoned.
You know, before he snuck out the first time, he even pulled the snuggling and "I love you's" before he shut out the lights and destroyed our lives.
How could someone look someone in the eye and say those three words, in our marital bed, and know what he was going to do, at the same time?
I'm glad that you're in an anger phase-it's not healthy either, but there's fuel in it, isn't there?
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.