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eyenight posted 8/17/2013 00:48 AM

My guy friend and I have spent a lot of time together. Hes such a great guy. We have fun together. We took it a little far one night.
Hes told me he has lots of feeling for me. He shows me all the time how much he cares for me. But Im not there.
I think the thing that gets me most is the age gap and the amount of money he makes and the fact that he is moving soon.
Im just going through the motions.
But wow this is a real guy he will do anything for me. He even gave me the gas money to get my mom out of my house faster. He even offered to help me clean my place after my mom left.
He enjoys spending time with me. But I dont know.
I understand that guys have treated me like shit and this guy treats me wonderful. I am not used to it at all.

persevere posted 8/17/2013 00:58 AM

If he's moving soon what are your options here?
A - you wait and see knowing an end is likely when he moves
B - you end it now
That's it.

He's clearly a KISA which is good short term but not generally long term.

Is there another question I'm missing?

nowiknow23 posted 8/17/2013 09:04 AM

I'm going to sidestep the question about the friend and ask you a question -

I understand that guys have treated me like shit and this guy treats me wonderful. I am not used to it at all.
This is exactly the kind of thing IC can help you work through. Are you in counseling right now?

MovingUpward posted 8/17/2013 09:56 AM

He's clearly a KISA which is good short term but not generally long term.

I will disagree unless you are willing to understand that being a "KISA" doesn't mean that you actually need to save someone. Remember acts of service is a love language and this could just be his love language. Being with you and giving some gas money isn't necessarily a bad thing. If you expect all men that are helpful to be KISAs and run away from them then you'll most likely find yourself being with the ones that treat you shitty.

However if you are not feeling connected, I don't think that you can force that. I think that it would be best to end it and let him move on.

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