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better4me posted 8/17/2013 15:49 PM

I wasn't looking forward to this morning's coffee date. His pictures weren't that appealing, his profile made him sound like someone I wouldn't have much in common with. Yesterday when he texted that he was excited to meet me, I kind of shot it down with a "please don't be too enthused" kind of joking reply because I thought I was going to end up having to say "thanks but no thanks". I wanted him to not be too hurt or too surprised or too something when it didn't work out. Because I was pretty certain it wouldn't work out.

So, I get to the coffee shop where we are meeting a little bit early, snag a table in the shade, and wait for him to arrive. He walks in and "holy Toledo" he's cute! Really cute. He's smart, he's funny, he has a great smile. He is a recovering alcoholic (not a red flag to me as long as the person is in recovery) and he gets personal growth and spirituality and accountability and those things are really really important to me...and so many people I meet who aren't self aware don't get those things.

We talk and talk. He challenges me to speak my truth. We take a walk. He holds my hand. We walk to the college campus and walk around the beautiful central campus area. We sit on a bench and talk and kiss. We walk back to our cars and even stop in a couple of stores and do a little shopping on the way back. He is friendly with the shop keepers. He's enthused and a little ADD but it's cool. He really seems like a good guy.

I'm smitten. squeee

jo2love posted 8/17/2013 16:16 PM

MovingUpward posted 8/17/2013 16:20 PM

inconnu posted 8/17/2013 16:23 PM

nowiknow23 posted 8/17/2013 17:09 PM

Yay for exceeding expectations!

She11ybeanz posted 8/17/2013 19:37 PM

YAY!!! You give me hope! Hope that all of my paranoias about awful dates will one day cease when I meet the right guy....

SQQQUEEEEEEEEE!!!!

Williesmom posted 8/17/2013 20:20 PM

Yay!

Survivor3512 posted 8/17/2013 21:16 PM

Bloomsday posted 8/17/2013 21:20 PM

Lucky fella too.

Kajem posted 8/18/2013 04:30 AM

wildbananas posted 8/18/2013 09:44 AM

Awesome b4m!

better4me posted 8/18/2013 10:33 AM

Thanks all. It is a nice change to wake up and have a feeling of optimism and hope about this part of my NB.

wonderingbull posted 8/19/2013 12:15 PM

You go girl...

WB

HURTAGAIN1981 posted 8/19/2013 12:23 PM

This is great and I am very happy for you. I am glad it went so well, especially as you first thought that you wouldn't be interested. Just goes to show that it's worth giving people a chance :)