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Dadtryingtocope posted 8/17/2013 18:35 PM

So it's my one year Dday anniversary and somewhat to my surprise I am all good. I barely thought about it. While I can recall all of the events and the unbelievable shock I was handed that night, I'm not really feeling bad about it. I guess it's just my past now and not a huge need to look back at is. Lessons learned, move on.

gardenparty posted 8/17/2013 19:19 PM

Time really is a great healer. So glad that you got through this day alright. I am seven years out now and although I would be lying if I said I never trigger about dates and things like that, they do not happen that often.

better4me posted 8/17/2013 19:22 PM

so glad you barely thought about it. Cheers to moving on! (cue sound effect of the clinking of glasses)

persevere posted 8/18/2013 00:30 AM

It takes time but it does get better!

SBB posted 8/18/2013 01:16 AM

You are through all the firsts now - I found the antiversary of the day we got together which happened a few months before the DD antiversary was the hardest for me. By the time the DD antiversary came around I was in celebration mode.

I celebrated how different my life is now. How much more I'm getting out of every single moment of my life. What a better mother I am.

I savour all of it and I am celebrating all of it.

My triggers are different now - I trigger about things that I'm mad at myself about. I trigger about all the time I wasted being miserable. Far better than the yearning kind of triggers I was getting in that first year.

Welcome to the other side of Annus Horribilis, brother - with all of that awful stuff behind us. It is a glorious place to be!

[This message edited by StrongButBroken at 6:59 AM, August 18th (Sunday)]

gma56 posted 8/18/2013 18:51 PM

You're doing so well for only one year later !
I was still in the deep pit at a year out.
Next year will be even better.

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