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Thelastknight posted 8/17/2013 20:32 PM

Im going insane. My sister asked me if I was on drugs today. Im pissy, im ampt up and I cant control myself. Im not on drugs but my behavior is indicative of such recreation. OMG I need some relief
TLK

Thelastknight posted 8/17/2013 20:33 PM

Hey TLK things will get better. deep breaths

nowiknow23 posted 8/17/2013 20:38 PM

TLK - Vent it out. What's going on? What do you need relief from?

cmego posted 8/17/2013 20:47 PM

Can you do whatever your "therapy" is? Exercise? Mine is...unfortunately...retail therapy.

Talk to someone? Vent here?

AppleBlossom posted 8/17/2013 20:57 PM

Do you exercise? Doing something that makes you breathless ans sweaty (that is not between the sheets) can get rid of some of your excess energy and release a lot of endorphins. You will also feel the health benefits.

kernel posted 8/17/2013 21:02 PM

Do you have a particular place that gives you peace? For instance, out in the woods or out in a boat or something like that? I know when I was feeling crazy I would spend some time sitting by the lake or any wide open view and just let nature calm me down. My other method was to just scream and holler and swear and stomp around in my house. That was when I was still in marital home out in the middle of nowhere. Maybe you can drive somewhere out of the way and do the same in your car with the windows rolled up. Sometimes it just helps to get the emotion out.

Survivor3512 posted 8/17/2013 21:12 PM

(((TLK))) I'm sorry you're having a hard time. The others are right, you gotta find something to get you out of your head- exercise, painting, reading, whatever works for you. Hang in there, this wave will pass.

Nature_Girl posted 8/17/2013 22:22 PM

What is one thing you can do tomorrow that's different from what you've been doing? A place you can go? An activity or person you've been meaning to reconnect with? A project you meant to tackle?

Just one thing. One thing. Do one thing different tomorrow. That can make all the difference in the world.

heartbroken_kk posted 8/17/2013 22:27 PM

EXERCISE!

Go get you some endogenous endorphins.

Thelastknight posted 8/18/2013 01:12 AM

I have been played in the string along game. God Im so glad I was smart enough not to get my kids involved in this relationship. However I feel betrayed that I was led to believe we were still feeling our way through assimilation with kids. She introduced me to her kids almost instantly and I had some mixed feeling about it. She met mine accidently, when she showed up at my place a couple hours early, but it was a small interaction.

Regardless, I believe she was hiding the new guy from me in hopes I could be a fall back plan. Im not impressed and find this shit insulting.

Further, we have been talking regularly for hours and she was saying how much she misses me and wants to be with me. I feel like sharing this shit with new guy.

However I just don't want the drama.

cmego posted 8/18/2013 07:02 AM

Well, think of it less as "drama" and more like "exposing the truth". She caused the drama, not you.

Then walk away.

I think a huge red flag is wanting to introduce kids early. To me, it looks like trying to rush a relationship, or force it without going through the proper "get to know you...are we a match?" steps. I dated a guy for 5 months and my kids never knew...one meeting at a park with a group was it. Children don't need the drama.

Im not impressed and find this shit insulting.

^^^exactly.

There are good, healthy, monogamous women out there!

Next.

better4me posted 8/18/2013 10:25 AM

I'm so sorry that you are going through this. Being played SUCKS DONKEY BALLS. Sounds like righteous indignation time! And that explains the amped up and the pissy and feeling out of control. You're not crazy, you're angry.

I vote for exposing her game to the other guy too...or just walk away while it explodes behind you...

persevere posted 8/18/2013 11:09 AM

TLK I'm so sorry this happened but so glad you recognized who she is before your kids got involved. That is a win.

And you absolutely have every right to be angry!

But cmego is right here:

There are good, healthy, monogamous women out there!

Next.

kernel posted 8/18/2013 11:37 AM

NC = no new hurts applies here. So does "listen when they tell you who they are." You deserve better. NEXT.

There's a country song that applies here too (isn't there always ).

Done by the Band Perry

"I don't wanna be your "just for fun",
Don't wanna be under your thumb
All I wanna be is DONE"

[This message edited by kernel at 11:41 AM, August 18th (Sunday)]

Thelastknight posted 8/19/2013 00:15 AM

I woke up pissed am. I haven't been like this since DD almost 5 years ago. OMG I cant stand this shit.

Thinkingtoomuch posted 8/19/2013 09:56 AM

woke up pissed am. I haven't been like this since DD almost 5 years ago. OMG I cant stand this shit.


Regardless, I believe she was hiding the new guy from me in hopes I could be a fall back plan. Im not impressed and find this shit insulting.

Further, we have been talking regularly for hours and she was saying how much she misses me and wants to be with me. I feel like sharing this shit with new guy.

Just thought I'd give my two cents worth. Sounds like your nervous system is re-experiencing the trauma of the A.(PTSD-like). I truly believe the after effects can stay with us almost forever. Think that's why so many say they'll not date (even if it's just communicating with xWW/WS).

I feel better when I talk it out with safe friends, family, IC if you have one, and exercise, breathe, pray, whatever, and all of it. It has reinstated your "fight or flight". Our bodies's cells don't forget anything and it's a protective mechanism.

Just understanding this can help. Talk to yourself. And do what you need to protect yourself. Listen to your gut.

Hugs and more hugs.

[This message edited by Thinkingtoomuch at 10:02 AM, August 19th (Monday)]

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