This is not an easy topic. People were shocked when Ow that nearly ExH chose was discovered. Many people still ask her name and want to go looking-her very name is a trigger, so I shut off letting any knowledge be told to me about her.
You know what's bizarre for me, now? When I talked about strangers in our daughter's life that he brought and shouldn't have, the selfish s.o.b. said to me, "well, they wouldn't be selfish if you would let me introduce everyone."
My jaw has only dropped a few times in life, but that day it hit the floor. It was also a sign of how strange his way of thinking is.
ETA: people had to comment on how different she is from me in appearance, I don't know why? Maybe support...but I remember having violent reactions with my emotions when I finally saw a picture...
Worse damage was seeing "them" and the way they mixed up universes with stolen pictures.
And, he still tries to hide her. WUWT? (What's up with that?)Ashland 13
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