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After some stellar googling I found my husbands affair partner. He has denied, denied, denied. I knew there was another woman. Someone had posted under my name - disparaging her character and saying that she had broken up a family with four young children. Of course she's a bi-polar actress. I want to throw up. I haven't told him I know yet.

(((HUGS))))

I remember when I identified the OW. I had a complete meltdown. It was epic, as my kids would say.

You feel whatever you feel & don't stop feeling until you're ready to move to the next feeling. If he doesn't understand what you're feeling or why, that's his problem. Identifying an OW is a major big deal. (((HUGS)))

Thanks Nature_Girl. I slept a few hours, feel a little better...

It's strange, I thought when I saw the person he was cheating with that I would be overcome with jealousy. I'm just disgusted. This was worth abandoning 4 kids and a loving wife for???

No wonder he feels so guilty.

Grotesque. Foul. They can have each other.

[This message edited by Sparkles at 9:21 AM, August 18th (Sunday)]

This was worth abandoning 4 kids and a loving wife for???

Here's the thing - he didn't abandon you and the kids for HER, he did it for himself. His own selfish wants.

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I distinctly remember finding our who my XH ho bag was. She was a teacher where my kids went to school. I felt like I was punched in the stomach.

This is not an easy topic. People were shocked when Ow that nearly ExH chose was discovered. Many people still ask her name and want to go looking-her very name is a trigger, so I shut off letting any knowledge be told to me about her.

You know what's bizarre for me, now? When I talked about strangers in our daughter's life that he brought and shouldn't have, the selfish s.o.b. said to me, "well, they wouldn't be selfish if you would let me introduce everyone."

My jaw has only dropped a few times in life, but that day it hit the floor. It was also a sign of how strange his way of thinking is.

ETA: people had to comment on how different she is from me in appearance, I don't know why? Maybe support...but I remember having violent reactions with my emotions when I finally saw a picture...

Worse damage was seeing "them" and the way they mixed up universes with stolen pictures.

And, he still tries to hide her. WUWT? (What's up with that?)

[This message edited by Ashland13 at 6:09 PM, August 18th (Sunday)]