I think most people in Western society shy away from talking about PAINFUL topics -- death, handicaps, violence against the defenseless -- perhaps because of sense of helplessness; nobody defeats death.
And when it comes to other painful, "heavy" topics that are frequently in the media -- cheating, betrayal, war -- I think sometimes the platitudes come out only because someone hasn't been through the trauma of betrayal or war, and simply doesn't have a true understanding.
c6284x, divorce is only as shameful as the messages in your head.
I have been carrying around this shame for two years all by myself.
Maybe a handful of one-on-one IC sessions will help you replace your shame with something closer to acceptance?
[This message edited by ladies_first at 10:33 AM, August 18th (Sunday)]