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User Topic: alternatives to driving- i need suggestions!
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Default  Posted: 12:25 PM, August 18th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I recently moved to a townhouse that is literally right behind my job. Its about a football field in distance. The problem is, the area between my house and my office is a fenced wooded area. It IS possible to walk through. But not really feasible to do in a suit/skirt/etc (cant go into the office smelling like off and covered in grass/leaves/dirt... its a short hike, but a hike nonetheless... and fine to take my dog through, but not an option to take to work.)

To get there driving it's 3/4 of a mile (going several blocks around). Which I'd also be fine walking, but its a high traffic area, with no sidewalk (and in some places no grassy area off the road even).

I live in a formerly rural area in the south, and there is a lot of construction going on near my home and job. so hopefully in a year or two there will be sidewalks.

But right now its really hard on my car. I get like 35mpg, but its not a hybrid, and its killing my battery (every where I go is within a few blocks from home, but no pedestrian paths whatsoever).

I open the office (an hour or two before anyone else is there), so riding with someone isn't an option. and biking (again in a suit or skirt) or even taking a golf cart will not work because of the congestion on the streets. the campus/downtown area where i live (which is about 6 miles from where i am) is the only place that is suitable for bikes and pedestrians. I live near the interstate/mall/restaurants/etc.

I love being this close to my job. but i need some suggestions....

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Default  Posted: 12:38 PM, August 18th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wear your hiking clothes and carry your work outfit in a backpack? Leave several changes of clothes at the office? Get a scooter?

Just throwing things out there...

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Default  Posted: 12:42 PM, August 18th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Since you get there ahead of everyone else wear your track suit, walk to work and change once there. You could drive the car around once a week with several outfits and leave them at work so you don't have to carry them to work.
As for your car...get out for a nice long drive on the weekends and charge up the battery...explore the area, go to a local beach/park, or just hit the highway and drive a good distance with some great tunes on!
I wish I could "walk to work", between gas and parking fees it's glad you can cut costs....HUGS

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Default  Posted: 12:45 PM, August 18th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My suggestion is along the lines of Sad's - wear "hiking" clothes in then change to your work clothes. Since you get there long before anyone else, I don't see an issue with this (unless you take like 3 hours to get ready...). There are a few women where I work that do something like this. They'll wear flip flops or something to work then change to shoes before the shift starts.

[This message edited by Clarrissa at 12:47 PM, August 18th (Sunday)]

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Default  Posted: 1:01 PM, August 18th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


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Default  Posted: 1:17 PM, August 18th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bicycling might not be as bad as you think. Look into a bicycling safety class that will teach you how to "drive" your bike safely.

It's such a short distance that you won't even break a sweat and you can wear your work clothes. This lady dresses in style and rides everywhere...

Personally I think if there are no sidewalks you are safer on a bike occupying a lane like a car, than walking on the shoulder.

You may find walking through the wooded area can be done in your work clothes with just a change of shoes. If there is a pathway but branches are encroaching on it you can always take a pair of clippers down it on a weekend day and open the path up so you don't touch the vegetation when you walk.

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