Gently,
Mystic, you cannot R with yourself. Period.
I have read your last few posts. Depression aside, your WH seems to be stonewalling you.
What is happening? You are trying to SOLVE this....alone. So you keep approaching him, rehashing it in different ways, asking in different ways, not asking and seeing if that works, tiptoeing around...all in an effort to fix it.
You cannot do it alone. You cannot make him do it with you. He has to want to do it too. He might be saying that he does want to R, but it is in the actions that the truth is found.
I have had depression. It is debilitating. He needs to go to someone to help him with it. If he has desire to R, he needs to do it.
I think you really need to decide what you need to R. You are not in R right now.
Part of what you need is probably for him to get himself the help he needs.
You need to spell it out, have consequences and what are your deal breakers, etc...
Then you need to back up and let the chips fall where they may.
You tell him you want to R, you are willing to try, but he needs to do something too. It is up to HIM.
RIght now, he has you scrambling. Take back control Mystic. Define what you want, what you need, what you are willing to do. And then back up. It really is up to him.
"Don't spend time beating on a wall, hoping it will transform into a door. ~Coco Chanel"
Me BS 42 Him WS 44
OW Coworker DDay April 7, 2012
EA on a slippery slope...
When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. ~Viktor Frankl
"When you are happy, you can forgive a great deal."