divorced the Dooosh 8/13
Every time my boy comes home from a weekend at Disneyland (aka: the Dooosh's house) he is a mess.
He is angry because of some fucked up revelation his Parent Of The Year decided it was time to reveal, or he is mad that he has to go back and forth between two homes, etc.
This time he is a mess because he wants to take a trip with the Doosh. He has it all planned out in his little 10 year old head. Problem is, school starts next Monday. (He told me tonight: Since I have 3 more weeks of summer Dad said we could go to xxx for a short trip if you say it's ok!)
Why in Gods name is he telling my son this bullshit?? First of all, he has EOW. No more "summer vacation" days. Second of all, he wouldn't get to just arbitrarily decide on more visitation anyway.
I'm not sure whether my son brought up the trip (doubtful) or the Dooosh did, but either way the only appropriate response would be to say "hey let me run this by Mom before we start making any plans"
We (the children and I)have things happening this week- ortho appointments, etc- that he is probably unaware of because reading a google calendar is a skill ExDoooshbags don't practice regularly. If he thought at all about how his son would feel, he would NOT get his hopes up in the first place!!
So now son is upset because he doesn't have 3 weeks left, because his dad doesn't have more visitation this summer (but dad can take vacation time! He told me he has lots if that!). Great conversation to have with a 10 year old, don't you think?
So I get to be the one dealing with sadness created by a complete and utter lack of parenting. Way to go Disney Dooosh!
Do your babies come home a total wreck every freaking time!?? When does this get better??
It's OKAY to be scared.
Being scared means you're about
to do something really, really brave.