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User Topic: "When it meant something"
Pass
♂ 38122
Member # 38122
Default  Posted: 10:40 AM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Today is my 18th wedding anniversary (seems we're all having anniversaries lately). Since The Princess is such a manipulator, I was anticipating her sending some "witty" text or email. When she picked up the boys yesterday, I met her out in the hall and brought this up.

I said, "I don't think you were going to do this," (white lie), "but please don't even acknowledge tomorrow with me. I just can't handle it."

To her credit, she hasn't done anything yet. To her discredit, her response was, "I hardly acknowledged it when it meant something. I certainly won't now."

Stroppy twat. I fucking hate her.

She just had to take the opportunity to tell me that she really wasn't so into me.

I should have known better than to say a god damn word. I really should have.


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 2157 | Registered: Jan 2013
nowiknow23
♀ 33226
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 10:45 AM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Criminy, her talons are always sharpened, aren't they?

Shake it off as best as you can. ((((pass))))


You can call me NIK

"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you."
-Walt Whitman


Posts: 26495 | Registered: Aug 2011
Nature_Girl
♀ 32554
Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 10:54 AM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bitch!


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

Posts: 10147 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
imagoodwitch
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Member # 23375
Default  Posted: 10:59 AM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That was pretty crappy, heartless actually.

It's my anniversary today too.


I am just your ordinary average everyday sane psycho supergoddess - Liz Phair

Don't keep dancing with the Devil and wonder why you are still in Hell.

It's all shits and giggles until someone giggles and shits.


Posts: 5509 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: Munchkinland
Pentup
♀ 20563
Member # 20563
Default  Posted: 11:04 AM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow. That was cold. Wish you had told her, "sorry, for a minute I had you confused with someone who was NOT a bitch."
Think you should keep this encounter in mind I pm case you ever miss her.


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

Posts: 6718 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Not Oz
Pentup
♀ 20563
Member # 20563
Default  Posted: 11:05 AM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow. That was cold. Wish you had told her, "sorry, for a minute I had you confused with someone who was NOT a bitch."
Think you should keep this encounter in mind I pm case you ever miss her.


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

Posts: 6718 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Not Oz
solus sto
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Member # 30989
Default  Posted: 11:08 AM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Stroppy twat. I fucking hate her.

Me, too.


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 9148 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
dmari
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Default  Posted: 11:09 AM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know what to say. I don't want to get a warning from admin so I'm not going to write what I think of her. I'm sorry you were brutally hurt ... again. Now you know better and you won't share with her any of your emotions. She certainly doesn't deserve it.

Wow, many of us are having anniversaries! My 20th was this past Friday. I didn't hear a peep from stbx because I must hold the worlds record for NC


Me (BS): 43 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Divorced September 30, 2014
"It's always darkest before the dawn ..."

Posts: 2335 | Registered: Oct 2012
suckstobeme
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Default  Posted: 1:04 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She's a disgusting excuse for a woman.

I'm sorry you were hurt by her again. But, since no one has done it yet, I'm gonna swing a gentle two by four.

Pass, telling her you were upset by the date gave her a perfect window into your mind. She says these awful things because she's awful. I wholeheartedly agree with that. But, this is an occasion where you gave her the opportunity to aim her venom straight at you and she said something that she knew would hurt.

I recently read that no one can hurt you or manipulate you if you don't show them or tell them your thoughts. Unless you want her to hurt you over and over again, do not ever let her inside again.

I know anniversaries are hard and you have every right to be upset. You also have every right to show your pain and talk about it with the safe people in your life. With the people who will help and support you, not use the information to tear you down.

She's the number one enemy, my friend. Stop letting her into your camp.


BW - me
ExWH - "that one"
D - 2011
You get what you put in, and people get what they deserve.
Hard as it may be, try to never give the OP any of your power or head space.

Posts: 2909 | Registered: Jan 2011
TrustGone
♀ 36654
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Default  Posted: 1:19 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am sooo sorry she said that. It just goes to show how much better you are without that bitch in your life.

In a few years your anniversary will come and go and you will even forget that it was once your anniversary. I just now remembered I had one a few weeks ago. It never even dawned on me that day. Hoping that you get there soon. (((HUGS)))


BW-52
WH#2-53
M-10 yrs T-12 yrs
4 children-none together
DD#1-9/5/11 LTA 2yrs
DD#2-7/3/12 False R
DD#3-4/29/13 (OW broke NC)
DD#4-11/28/14 He ran off to be with OW after assaulting me
Divorcing

Posts: 2492 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Texas
Pass
♂ 38122
Member # 38122
Default  Posted: 1:32 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

suckstobeme, you're right. I keep thinking that treating her like a reasonable person will somehow help me - and she keeps proving me wrong.

Thanks, y'all.


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 2157 | Registered: Jan 2013
Brandon808
♂ 35619
Member # 35619
Default  Posted: 1:38 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry for that pass.

Now I'm going to switch gears and point out that her brutal words were not only her true colors. They were an everlasting reminder that she is not worthy of you. Think about what kind of human being that says they hardly acknowledged an anniversary even when it meant something. Think about how much that shows their lack of emotional depth and maturity. She gave you a bitter truth. However, that taste of truth means you never have to worry about overestimating her empathy or humanity again.


xBH
D final 8/2012

Posts: 4118 | Registered: May 2012 | From: southeast
Pass
♂ 38122
Member # 38122
Default  Posted: 4:00 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

you never have to worry about overestimating her empathy or humanity again.

Thanks, Brandon.


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 2157 | Registered: Jan 2013
Pass
♂ 38122
Member # 38122
Default  Posted: 4:03 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's my anniversary today too.

imagoodwitch: After I finish my set at my open stage tonight, I will toast you with the inevitable wine I will order.


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 2157 | Registered: Jan 2013
shiloe
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Default  Posted: 4:20 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Pass,
Gee, I am sorry she hurt you yet again.

"I hardly acknowledged it when it meant something. I certainly won't now."

Is that true, she hardly acknowledged it before the affair?

Try not to engage in anyway with her.

Oh, and it did not mean "something", obviously

[This message edited by shiloe at 4:21 PM, August 19th (Monday)]


But remember, good love is hard to find . . -Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers
BS - 54
Cheater -54
Married 26 yrs
DD - 21 DD -19 DS-17
A#1 2000 with married ho-worker/neighbor ow#1
A#2 2007-? OW#2 LTA with yet another married ho-worker. Kicked h

Posts: 662 | Registered: Mar 2003
SBB
♀ 35229
Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 5:55 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She gave you a bitter truth. However, that taste of truth means you never have to worry about overestimating her empathy or humanity again.

^^THIS. You gave her the opening to do so. I hope you will have had enough of it soon.

((pass))


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5734 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
laney57
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Member # 35617
Default  Posted: 7:45 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Pass,
I echo what everyone else has to say. Still sorry though, it stings and she is bad... Just bad. Enjoy your wine!


Update 09/28/14
Me - BS, 44
Him - WH, 46
Married - 23 years
D-Day - 05/12/2012
Trying to find me still
Gotta do this, but I'm broken - headed for divorce - 02/20
Hell if I know - 02/24
Divorcing 09/28/14

Posts: 230 | Registered: May 2012 | From: KY
PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 9:53 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

pass, when you know better, you do better. Get back on the NC train and keep on chugging. You cannot expect empathetic behavior from a disgusting excuse for a human.


divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3631 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
SBB
♀ 35229
Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 11:01 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so going to celebrate when your give-a-fuck breaks.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5734 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Pass
♂ 38122
Member # 38122
Default  Posted: 8:26 AM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so going to celebrate when your give-a-fuck breaks.

Me too, dude. I can't wait.


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


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