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User Topic: So tell me about yourself...
tigrislilium
♀ 39893
Member # 39893
Happy  Posted: 12:15 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi All,

I have noticed how very much I rely on people putting a little bit of info about themselves in their signatures...

Ie: when I'm reading a post from someone who is having a "bad day" or who is getting "TT'd", it helps me a lot to be able to see things like:

-how old they are
-how long ago Dday(s) was
-how many kids they have and their ages
-nature of the affair (ONS? LTA? Was it with a MCO? A best friend from HS?, an old flame?)
etc..

because it helps me to know, to some degree, what stage they're in in their grief (even WSs), as well as how I can relate to their story. For instance, when I read a post from someone dealing with a ONS, I pretty much know I can't relate and have no useful input as I am dealing with 3 LTAs. (Yes, cheating is cheating, but there is a difference to the dynamics between these two types of affairs, surely...)

Is there any reason people don't include this (to me, useful) info in their signatures? Are they trying to hide from the prying eyes of a controlling spouse, or do they just feel it's not relevant?

And I love the quotes people include - some are so insightful! My favorite so far is something like: "If the best version of yourself is in the future, it's gonna stay there." I wish I could remember where I saw it - whoever has it on their signature, thanks!

RAWR!
Tigris


Me: BS, early 40s/ Him: WS, mid 40s
Married 2004
DD7
His affairs: 3 LTAs over at least 5 years, all of them overlapping at the time I found out
DDay: December 2011
Separated ~1 yr, recently reunited
attempting R

Posts: 64 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: East coast
strongerdaybyday
♀ 40264
Member # 40264
Default  Posted: 12:24 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree it's reassuring to see others stories because it makes you realize you're not alone! I didn't put my WH A story in my signature because I didn't know how to shorten the story!


Me-BW Him - WH
Married 6 years, together 13+ years
D-Day Summer 2013
children-3
If it is what it is then what is it?

**If I edit I'm correcting a typo!**


Posts: 384 | Registered: Aug 2013
DragnHeart
♀ 32122
Member # 32122
Default  Posted: 12:32 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I didn't put my WH A story in my signature because I didn't know how to shorten the story!

This^^^^^^^

How do I condense 5 years? Actually I have been trying to figure out how to change my profile and what to include in my signature.

I agree I look at people's signature alot. I also like to make sure I check their gender. Had assumed one person was male all this time only to realize they are female lol. Glad I didn't refer to them as "he".


Posts: 3476 | Registered: May 2011 | From: Canada
krazy8516
♀ 40076
Member # 40076
Default  Posted: 12:42 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

See my signature line? I've been an OW, WS & a BS... I feel like I can probably relate to just about anybody's story!


me: BW, 30
him: WH, 25
us: edging closer to R every day

married 2y, together 2.5y
1 beautiful daughter, 23m

"Someday soon, I'm going to put my life together; Win or lose, I'm starting over again."


Posts: 368 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Texas
tigrislilium
♀ 39893
Member # 39893
Default  Posted: 12:47 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks, all, for chiming in!

I hope more people with very little info in their signature lines see this - I can't be the only person who relies on a poster's signature as a sort of starting-point to understanding what they're going through...


Me: BS, early 40s/ Him: WS, mid 40s
Married 2004
DD7
His affairs: 3 LTAs over at least 5 years, all of them overlapping at the time I found out
DDay: December 2011
Separated ~1 yr, recently reunited
attempting R

Posts: 64 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: East coast
Deeply Scared
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Member # 2
Default  Posted: 12:50 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is there any reason people don't include this (to me, useful) info in their signatures? Are they trying to hide from the prying eyes of a controlling spouse, or do they just feel it's not relevant?

SI is a very public site and is listed in all the search engines. Many here like the anonymity and do not want to be found. The sig line and Profile are not required for anyone to fill out


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 198861 | Registered: May 2002
Ostrich80
34827
Member # 34827
Default  Posted: 12:52 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What DS said ^^^^^
I don't like to be to specific because of this.
In fact, I got a little anxiety rush when I read this...I do worry about ow/ws not only lurking but she would be the kind that would actually make a profile. Guess I'm a little paranoid

[This message edited by Ostrich80 at 12:56 PM, August 19th (Monday)]


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 5242 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
DWBH
♂ 35512
Member # 35512
Default  Posted: 2:27 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree Tigris, it's one of the first things I scan when reading a post by someone I don't know.


Me: BH, 43
Her: FWW, 42 (ThornyRose)
M: 17 years, together 20
2 Daughters: 15 and 13
D Day: 9/25/2011; Lies & TT to 5/4/2012
~Double betrayal; caught them in the act~

Posts: 729 | Registered: May 2012 | From: WI
JanaGreen
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Member # 29341
Default  Posted: 2:29 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is there any reason people don't include this (to me, useful) info in their signatures? Are they trying to hide from the prying eyes of a controlling spouse, or do they just feel it's not relevant?


I used to have all my shit written out, but I honestly just got tired of looking at it. It didn't exactly trigger me, but it put a damper on my mood. So I took it out.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 5-year-old daughter. Baby Green 2.0 expected June 2015!!!!!!!!!

Posts: 6936 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
SoVerySadNow
♀ 36711
Member # 36711
Default  Posted: 2:42 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm unable to put too much info in, but I have put some. I unfortunately need anonymity, but am honesty not trying to hide from true SI members.


Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.

Posts: 1292 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Sunny Florida
Topic Posts: 10

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