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fraeuken posted 8/19/2013 17:07 PM

The final paperwork came today and all I could think was "great, finally I can get him off my insurance". No feelings other than that. I am waiting for that sad moment and it has not happened yet. I have a feeling I might be celebrating tonight.

Nature_Girl posted 8/19/2013 17:18 PM

So it's all signed & official? You're divorced?

nowiknow23 posted 8/19/2013 17:21 PM

Congratulations, fraeuken. And welcome to the other side. It's much sunnier over here.

fraeuken posted 8/19/2013 17:22 PM

Yes. Deal has been sealed. I am free as a bird.

Phoenix1 posted 8/19/2013 17:28 PM

Congrats! Enjoy the freedom and have a toast for all of us who are still trying to get to that point!

Nature_Girl posted 8/19/2013 17:38 PM

Well then YAHOO!!!!!!!!!!!

foxglove posted 8/19/2013 19:47 PM

Congrats! This is a big milestone and one I found brought feelings of relief.

Do something really nice for yourself tonight.

devistatedmom posted 8/19/2013 19:51 PM

Congrats fraeuken!

FaithFool posted 8/19/2013 20:01 PM

Yee haw! Congratulations.

Williesmom posted 8/19/2013 20:03 PM

Yay!!!

Chrysalis123 posted 8/19/2013 20:08 PM

Congrats!!!!!!!

ninebark posted 8/20/2013 07:27 AM

fraeuken WOOT!

I can't wait to join you, just one week and 30 days to go..lol.

Go and celebrate your new life

sparkysable posted 8/20/2013 09:21 AM

As soon as I got mine, I went right to the social security office and the DMV and changed my name.

Then I came home, and it hit me, and I felt like I had been run over by a truck.

brokenandconfuse posted 8/20/2013 10:36 AM

Congrats!

whatdoto posted 8/20/2013 11:12 AM

Congratulations!

I should be a free bird in about 2 weeks. And a new homeowner to boot!

Cheers to you!

dmari posted 8/20/2013 11:14 AM

Congratulations!! I am so jealous!! Continue moving forward and thriving!!

fraeuken posted 8/20/2013 11:24 AM

Still no emotional reaction other than wanting to get all the next steps completed, such as opening my own insurance account, removing him from health insurance etc.

I think he has pissed me off to no end at this point that I can't be sad over this, just relieved:

- Asked me via text if I was broke (no, my dear) because I took 200$ out of the joint account which had been transferred accidentally. Just wanted my hard earned money back to go see a nice show with my German friend in Las Vegas on Sunday night. And yes, we did see ‘Thunder from Down Under’ 
- Still owes our joint account over $1000 but keeps telling me that I owe him (I guess, he is the one who is broke). Bookkeeping is just not his strength which is scary after 20+ years in the banking industry. Even with giving him credit for paid car insurance and HOA fees for our rental properties, he still owes ME.
- When informed that he owes me and has not addressed the issue since June, I received the following text: ‘and btw, I pay 52$ per month for DD16’s cellphone’…. Well, never mind I just gave her a brand new laptop for her birthday, pay for all her sports activities, her MRI and xRays, physical therapy etc…. and never say a word to him about it.
- Guess who showed up at my house yesterday while I was a work? The puppy was back, spent 6 hours at my house because XH’s girlfriend was not available to watch him and knowing that I was not home he just thought it was a good idea to dump the dog with DD11 at my place. Never said a word to me. Let me say, the money I spent yesterday morning on my cleaning lady was rather wasted…
- Changed all agreements on short notice. He was supposed to have DDs today through Thursday as per agreement and I had planned my work schedule around that. Last night he tells me, only after I ask when he plans to pick up, that he is not taking them because it was inconvenient. He actually tried to blame it on DD16 who was upset he tried to do that. I raised hell, he will pick them up after all.

I could go on and on and on….Also, he is having DD16 take her driving lessons so that she can drive herself and DD11 40 miles from where he is moving to in order to get to school in the morning. She would have to cross the Golden Gate bridge in heavy traffic mornings and evenings. I am livid and have started talking to my attorney to see if XH can enforce this. I really don’t want DD16 to have responsibility for driving DD11 being a new driver. This is not your easy quick 2 mile morning commute…. See, no room for sadness really, just anger and astonishment at his lack of common sense.

[This message edited by fraeuken at 11:26 AM, August 20th (Tuesday)]