I hear you. I don't give a shit what he mess he makes of his own life but I was gutted when the 40 y/o lower muppet thought it was the right thing to do to introduce his 24 office gopher/OWUmpteen to my then 2 and almost 5 year olds as his GF 20 weeks after S.
According to him he is fixed - the proof being he is capable of being in a relationship. Nevermind he was in this and several during the M. Minor detail.
Please read: "She's Special" (2nd article down):
And Romantic Infidelity"
They both gave me huge lightbulb moments.
That's the kind of fucked up thinking we're all dealing with.
It won't always hurt this bad. I promise you. I still hate it that his whore self and his whore steal precious time for me in a desperate attempt to validate their 'relationship'.
What he did to me I can deal with - what he did and continues to do to them I still struggle with but it is nothing like those first few months.
But the sooner you accept that he is a selfish, cowardly, pathetic POS with no regard for how his actions impact these precious children the sooner you will be able to start focussing on what you can do to help your kids navigate through the quagmire that is their fathers life.
I'm so sorry honey. I was a hot mess through this phase. I hit rock bottom but it was painful but necessary and perhaps essential step in my healing.
((gek9742000)) They are truly soulless.