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StrongerOne posted 8/19/2013 20:21 PM

I was looking for the MCOW online...she's just within the last couple of months been reestablishing herself online. Found new work Facebook account for her...with new town! Looked it up -- new address out near her current job, her BH listed at same address.

She's really and truly GONE. She's no longer working two hours away from her house out here -- she lives two hours away. She's not likely to want to come back to work here anymore. I won't have to worry about seeing her as I drive my DS around to his sports teams.

She's GONE.

It feels...strange. It's like, now I can finally believe that my H is over her. I knew that rationally, but now I *feel* it. And kind of like, I have to let go of her, let her out of my head.

I've felt we've been in R, but maybe I've been hanging on to the A? Afraid to really be truly R?

Just...a strange feeling.

ETA: I feel like I can stop cyberstalking her

[This message edited by StrongerOne at 8:30 PM, August 19th (Monday)]

AFrayedKnot posted 8/19/2013 22:53 PM

That must feel like such a relief. Now you can try to not let her occupy your head space. I bet you will feel even better if you stop stalking.

RidingHealingRd posted 8/20/2013 01:31 AM

I would wish this for every BS.

It is such a "freeing" feeling. AP no longer exists in your world.

The best day, post Dday, for me was the day my vehicle rolled out of the State where POS MOW was living and headed to our new home...1600 miles away!

Enjoy your life with her out of it.

StrongerOne posted 8/20/2013 09:13 AM

Yes, you are right. No more cyber stalking. She doesn't deserve to live in my mental neighborhood anymore.

Ellephantastic posted 8/20/2013 10:49 AM

OW has also moved away, back home to Norway! Because she dropped out of university (the university I go too) and because Scotland is too expensive for her!!! YAY!

I agree, it is a strange but good feeling. Its like we have 'won' in a way, we have held onto our men/women and our 'territory'. At least that's how it feels to me

Lalagirl posted 8/20/2013 13:04 PM

OMG so envious (xOW lives 10 minutes from us in the next town)...but SO SO happy for you! I can feel your joy in your post!!

Big hugs...

confused615 posted 8/20/2013 17:46 PM