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Topic: OW moved away

StrongerOne
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Posted: 8:21 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013

I was looking for the MCOW online...she's just within the last couple of months been reestablishing herself online. Found new work Facebook account for her...with new town! Looked it up -- new address out near her current job, her BH listed at same address.

She's really and truly GONE. She's no longer working two hours away from her house out here -- she lives two hours away. She's not likely to want to come back to work here anymore. I won't have to worry about seeing her as I drive my DS around to his sports teams.

She's GONE.

It feels...strange. It's like, now I can finally believe that my H is over her. I knew that rationally, but now I *feel* it. And kind of like, I have to let go of her, let her out of my head.

I've felt we've been in R, but maybe I've been hanging on to the A? Afraid to really be truly R?

Just...a strange feeling.

ETA: I feel like I can stop cyberstalking her

[This message edited by StrongerOne at 8:30 PM, August 19th (Monday)]

DDay Feb 2011.
In R.

Posts: 915 | Registered: Sep 2012

AFrayedKnot
♂ 36622
Member # 36622

Posted: 10:53 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013

That must feel like such a relief. Now you can try to not let her occupy your head space. I bet you will feel even better if you stop stalking.

BS 40
fWS 37 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

Posts: 2709 | Registered: Aug 2012

RidingHealingRd
♀ 33867
Member # 33867

Posted: 1:31 AM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013

I would wish this for every BS.

It is such a "freeing" feeling. AP no longer exists in your world.

The best day, post Dday, for me was the day my vehicle rolled out of the State where POS MOW was living and headed to our new home...1600 miles away!

Enjoy your life with her out of it.

ME: 54 BS
HIM: 61 WH
Married: 28 years
D'Day: 10/29/10
in R 4 years and it's working but he is putting 200% into it (as he should) to make it right again.

The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.

Posts: 2167 | Registered: Nov 2011

StrongerOne
♀ 36915
Member # 36915

Posted: 9:13 AM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013

Yes, you are right. No more cyber stalking. She doesn't deserve to live in my mental neighborhood anymore.

DDay Feb 2011.
In R.

Posts: 915 | Registered: Sep 2012

Ellephantastic
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Member # 39833

Posted: 10:49 AM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013

OW has also moved away, back home to Norway! Because she dropped out of university (the university I go too) and because Scotland is too expensive for her!!! YAY!

I agree, it is a strange but good feeling. Its like we have 'won' in a way, we have held onto our men/women and our 'territory'. At least that's how it feels to me

BS(me)
WBF = PA
Ow = 19(at the time)
WBF A = 08/10/2012-17/10/2012
D-Day = 24/01/2013

"It was easier for him to hurt me than it was for him to turn her down"

Posts: 80 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Scotland

Lalagirl
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Member # 14576

Posted: 1:04 PM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013

OMG so envious (xOW lives 10 minutes from us in the next town)...but SO SO happy for you! I can feel your joy in your post!!

Big hugs...

Me - 49; FWH - 51
Married 31 years 9/2/14
2 grown daughters-31 & 27
5yo GS,2yo GD & 5 mo. GD (DD30) and 2.5 yo GD(DD27). D-day #1 - 1/06; D-day #2 - 3/07
Reconciled! Construction Complete.

Posts: 5219 | Registered: May 2007

confused615
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Member # 30826

Posted: 5:46 PM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013

BS(me)42
FWH 46
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciled. Love my "new" husband!

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.

Posts: 8382 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana

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