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BeyondBreaking posted 8/19/2013 21:59 PM

Does anyone else do this, or is it just me?

It started back when I was engaged in college to my fiance. I don't communicate well when I am angry/frustrated- I tend to get vindictive, call names, yell, etc... In order to help prevent that, I would practice what I planned on saying and addressing the topic while I was in the car, etc...

It gets worse. I have gotten to the point now where I will "say" outloud whatever I am feeling in the car on the way to work as soon as I drop off my daughter. I sometimes don't even mean to. Some of the stuff is preparing what I plan on bringing up that evening. Some of it is venting out loud.

Anyone with me? Is this completely unhealthy?

cantaccept posted 8/20/2013 03:58 AM

I don't know if it's healthy r not, but I do the same thing. Driving alone is the worst, I talk, sometime these moans come out.

At work I keep saying, "what am I doing?" and then I reply to myself, "stop saying that".

Thankfully, my co-workers are great people and my boss has actually been through this with his wife. So he doesn't think I am totally crazy.

It is embarrassing though.

confused615 posted 8/20/2013 05:17 AM

Of course I talk to myself. Im the only one who understands me.

(I think it's normal. I *hope* it is...anyway... )

devasted30 posted 8/20/2013 07:50 AM

Oh, Oh. I've always talked to myself. This isn't normal?
Ooops.
And yes, I too am the only one who understands me.....I need this.

bionicgal posted 8/20/2013 07:56 AM

I talk out loud in the car constantly. I am a very entertaining guest.

rachelc posted 8/20/2013 07:57 AM

actually, studies have shown its a sign of intelligence...

SadFlower posted 8/20/2013 11:19 AM

I talk to myself all the time. Sometimes it's just venting, sometimes it's rehearsing difficult conversations, such as the big D-Day conversation (rehearsing did help a lot!). Saying things out loud helps me process things.

daisychains posted 8/20/2013 13:18 PM

I've always talked to myself - now the chats tend to be a lot longer - though it's nice to know it's a sign of intelligence.

Scubachick posted 8/21/2013 14:21 PM

I don't really talk outloud to myself but I shake my head, roll my eyes, smile based on the conversation I'm having with myself in my head. I don't realize I'm doing it...my son points it out. It's really bad in the car. I bet I look insane at redlights.

Rebreather posted 8/21/2013 14:23 PM

It's really embarrassing when I'm in a full roll and then realize I am at a stop light and other people are around. This is where pretending to be on the phone comes in handy.

[This message edited by Rebreather at 2:24 PM, August 21st (Wednesday)]