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Topic: Oh crap...I'm talking to myself

BeyondBreaking
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Posted: 9:59 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013

Does anyone else do this, or is it just me?

It started back when I was engaged in college to my fiance. I don't communicate well when I am angry/frustrated- I tend to get vindictive, call names, yell, etc... In order to help prevent that, I would practice what I planned on saying and addressing the topic while I was in the car, etc...

It gets worse. I have gotten to the point now where I will "say" outloud whatever I am feeling in the car on the way to work as soon as I drop off my daughter. I sometimes don't even mean to. Some of the stuff is preparing what I plan on bringing up that evening. Some of it is venting out loud.

Anyone with me? Is this completely unhealthy?

I have been cheated on by 3 different men, and I have more DDays than anyone ever should. I am here, just trying to pickup the pieces.

"What did you expect? I am a scorpion."

Posts: 879 | Registered: Jan 2013

cantaccept
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Member # 37451

Posted: 3:58 AM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013

I don't know if it's healthy r not, but I do the same thing. Driving alone is the worst, I talk, sometime these moans come out.

At work I keep saying, "what am I doing?" and then I reply to myself, "stop saying that".

Thankfully, my co-workers are great people and my boss has actually been through this with his wife. So he doesn't think I am totally crazy.

It is embarrassing though.

"I'm still standing better than I ever did. Looking like a true survivor, feeling like a little kid" Elton John
I would now like to be known as Can!

dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh deleted
I attempted R, he was a lie

Posts: 3134 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Connecticut

confused615
♀ 30826
Member # 30826

Posted: 5:17 AM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013

Of course I talk to myself. Im the only one who understands me.

(I think it's normal. I *hope* it is...anyway... )

BS(me)44
FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.

Posts: 15220 | Registered: Jan 2011

devasted30
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Posted: 7:50 AM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013

Oh, Oh. I've always talked to myself. This isn't normal?
Ooops.
And yes, I too am the only one who understands me.....I need this.

And remember Murphy is right. Nothing is so bad that it can't get worse!!!

Posts: 1861 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Ontario, Canada

bionicgal
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Member # 39803

Posted: 7:56 AM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013

I talk out loud in the car constantly. I am a very entertaining guest.

me - BS (45) - DDay - June 2013
A was 2+ months, EA/PA
In MC & Reconciling
"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point to move forward." -- C.S. Lewis.

Posts: 3491 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA

rachelc
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Posted: 7:57 AM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013

actually, studies have shown its a sign of intelligence...

Posts: 7613 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Midwest

SadFlower
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Posted: 11:19 AM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013

I talk to myself all the time. Sometimes it's just venting, sometimes it's rehearsing difficult conversations, such as the big D-Day conversation (rehearsing did help a lot!). Saying things out loud helps me process things.

Me: BW, age 69
Him: WH, age 67
Married 22 years
In R.

D-Day: August 14, 2012
9 year LTA with former co-worker and family "friend"/7 years EA+PA, 2 more years EA

Posts: 497 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Connecticut

daisychains
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Member # 37997

Posted: 1:18 PM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013

I've always talked to myself - now the chats tend to be a lot longer - though it's nice to know it's a sign of intelligence.

LTA 3.5 years

Posts: 90 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: uk

Scubachick
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Posted: 2:21 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013

I don't really talk outloud to myself but I shake my head, roll my eyes, smile based on the conversation I'm having with myself in my head. I don't realize I'm doing it...my son points it out. It's really bad in the car. I bet I look insane at redlights.

Posts: 1825 | Registered: Jul 2013

Rebreather
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Posted: 2:23 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013

It's really embarrassing when I'm in a full roll and then realize I am at a stop light and other people are around. This is where pretending to be on the phone comes in handy.

[This message edited by Rebreather at 2:24 PM, August 21st (Wednesday)]

Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

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