My WH is back and he is a bigger leach than ever! I need perspective, please!
My WH has been caught 3 times soliciting multiple prostitutes this year, one at least every Sunday. This has been going on since at least 2010.
I kicked him out. He went to live with his friend. His friend said rent was $500. A week after the beginning of August, he still hasn't paid his friend rent, so his friend kicks him out and now they are no longer friends bc of it.
WH calls me crying with no place to go. I let him stay with me. A couple days later, he gets a hotel room (one of his faves with the hookers).
While he was here, found a text message to his friend talking about pay him or get out followed by WH response saying "baby is bleeding to death. Life fighting her to hospital". This NEVER happened and I see it as a ploy for pity from his friend. His friend then respond 4 days later about how the baby is doing. WH responds that we were checking out of the hospital when in fact, we were at county fair.
Another text the day before, to a female friend of his stating that he adopted our baby bc he wanted baby to have a daddy. This implying to female friend that I was the unfaithful one and he is poor soul just trying to be a good guy. This then followed with a "I loved you so much and you just be never let me come see you!" mope-mope-mope...followed by her response of "dude, you are married. Why would I hang out with you?"
Now, he got a guy from work to let him stay with him, but has been at my house and ISN'T LEAVING!
My IC says I need to set boundaries with him. My birthdays tomorrow and he told me tonight he is going to take me to a restaraunt and he has a sitter for the kids.
He isn't paying me any child support, he isn't paying anyone any rent. He's just living for free. Wouldn't that be nice?
He's a leach. He latches on and he won't leave. I keep thinking "maybe one of your hookers will take you in".
Why is this my problem? Why does he lie to everyone, not just me? He makes up lies to get pity. What's really bad is that he's making up lies to get this female friend to feel pity. This lady just lost her son in June. He killed himself. She's incredibly depressed and my WH has the nerve to try and get pity from her with complete made up crap!
The devil is a tempter. He uses lies and pretty words to trick people. He uses confusion against people. Once he gets them confused, the person doesn't know what's true, what's not true, the person questions everything.
I don't know what's right anymore. I don't k ow if I'm a good person or if I'm evil. I don't know if I make good choices (which I'm not with the devil), or if I'm being judgemental. I don't know the right direction.
He's a leach and he needs to get the hell away from me. And I can kind of see through my own fog that he is tricking me and confusing me and using his lies to deceive me so that he can continue to live for free.
I need to sit down with him and give him a set of rules and boundaries. I'm afraid but I must be strong. The devil must not be a part of me. I can only pray that the devil will be good to his kids since he spawned them.
I think I must right down who I am and what I stand for and why it's ok to me and that I am good person. I've made mistakes, but thats ok, because I learn from them.
Where the devil makes mistakes but does not learn from them, I learn and grow. I change as needed. He changes on how to deceive people.