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copout (original poster member #22421) posted at 1:39 PM on Tuesday, August 20th, 2013
Having been in Law Enforcement I don't believe I ever truly understood the look of fear in a victims eyes.I also didn't understand how far one will go to protect themselves and those they love without caring of consequence.
How you feel when a restraining order does no good.When you constantly are looking over your shoulder.When you can't sleep at night.
I can honestly say that I have been pushed further than I thought I could tolerate.
I'm living this hell at the moment but it's going to be okay.I'll make it through this and learn from it.
Bring it on asshole you're not bringing me down.
Your prison is walking through this world all alone.
lieshurt ( member #14003) posted at 2:22 PM on Tuesday, August 20th, 2013
(((copout)))
I was in the same position after my divorce. I had an RO that my exwh immediately violated. Once I reported it, it took them a whole year to finally arrest him. He stalked me, harassed me, showed up at my house banging on the door, called me 2000 times at work, etc....It got to the point that just hearing a phone ring at work would sometimes cause me to have an anxiety attack.
Most mornings I woke up and had to repeat "I will get through this. I am strong. I will get through this." over and over again.
It's difficult, but remember you aren't alone here. You will get through this.
[This message edited by lieshurt at 8:25 AM, August 20th (Tuesday)]
No one changes unless they want to. Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them. Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love. There is only one thing that makes someone change: their own realization that they need to.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 4:06 PM on Tuesday, August 20th, 2013
((((copout)))) Your post concerns me. Are you safe?
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
stillstrong ( member #36144) posted at 4:21 PM on Tuesday, August 20th, 2013
copout, I've been hoping to see you. I hope you're safe and have lots of law enforcement friends who can help you. Please stay safe
Me BS 47
Him WS 51
DDay LTA Feb 21, 2006
R until DDay 2EA's 1/31/12 ONS 2/5/12 Broken NC 7/12/12
Moved out 9/12
Legally Separated 3/13
copout (original poster member #22421) posted at 5:49 PM on Tuesday, August 20th, 2013
Yes I'm safe,thanks for asking.
The crap just never ends.
Let's see, the brakes on my car have been tampered with,the police were called to mediation for my protection,he has entered my house several times while I was gone,last week he flashed his badge and the local law enforcement let him back into my house,he leaves strange things in my driveway, he has violated the restraining order nine times that I am aware of.The crap never ends.
At least I'm at a place where I'm not afraid and am no longer going to tolerate this garbage.
Once again I'm safe and life is so much better than it was!
Your prison is walking through this world all alone.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 5:52 PM on Tuesday, August 20th, 2013
Lordy. Sending you continued strength, copout.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
Tearsoflove ( member #8271) posted at 8:52 PM on Tuesday, August 20th, 2013
I was gone,last week he flashed his badge and the local law enforcement let him back into my house,he leaves strange things in my driveway, he has violated the restraining order nine times that I am aware of.
Security cameras? Even if I had to borrow the money I'd have them installed if I were you.
"Just because I don't care doesn't mean I don't understand." ~Homer Simpson
Random thoughts ( member #2959) posted at 10:36 PM on Tuesday, August 20th, 2013
You should file a report with the police department about letting him into your house, he's not a cop anymore right?
Also contact a lawyer about the cops letting him have access into your home especially with him violating the restraining order 9 times.
Those three words are said too much and not enough.Chasing Cars-Snow Patrol.FWW
copout (original poster member #22421) posted at 1:18 AM on Wednesday, August 21st, 2013
My son installed a security camera before he went back to school.
I don't live in the same county where we both worked,I called the Sheriff's office the other day and explained the situation,never heard back.
My attorney is well aware of all that has been going on.We just keep documenting everything.It's been a year hopefully this will be resolved in the near future.
He left a year ago to live with OW and I have not seen or talked to him since.I don't understand the need for all this crap,he is living the life he wanted.
Your prison is walking through this world all alone.
caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 2:40 AM on Wednesday, August 21st, 2013
(((hugs)))
I am so sorry. It does sound like you are doing all the right things. Empowering things.
What about a dog? Not a friendly I like everyone dog either. Maybe a retired K9 dog?
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
copout (original poster member #22421) posted at 11:53 AM on Wednesday, August 21st, 2013
I have the most wonderful Chow Chow who alerts me the second someone pulls into my driveway.If she is not outside and you make it to the front door she sounds as if she will tear you to pieces.
I do have a gate at the end of the driveway that is now securely locked and needs a key to be opened.
What a way to live.
Your prison is walking through this world all alone.
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