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copout posted 8/20/2013 07:39 AM

Having been in Law Enforcement I don't believe I ever truly understood the look of fear in a victims eyes.I also didn't understand how far one will go to protect themselves and those they love without caring of consequence.
How you feel when a restraining order does no good.When you constantly are looking over your shoulder.When you can't sleep at night.
I can honestly say that I have been pushed further than I thought I could tolerate.
I'm living this hell at the moment but it's going to be okay.I'll make it through this and learn from it.
Bring it on asshole you're not bringing me down.

lieshurt posted 8/20/2013 08:22 AM

(((copout)))

I was in the same position after my divorce. I had an RO that my exwh immediately violated. Once I reported it, it took them a whole year to finally arrest him. He stalked me, harassed me, showed up at my house banging on the door, called me 2000 times at work, etc....It got to the point that just hearing a phone ring at work would sometimes cause me to have an anxiety attack.

Most mornings I woke up and had to repeat "I will get through this. I am strong. I will get through this." over and over again.

It's difficult, but remember you aren't alone here. You will get through this.

[This message edited by lieshurt at 8:25 AM, August 20th (Tuesday)]

nowiknow23 posted 8/20/2013 10:06 AM

((((copout)))) Your post concerns me. Are you safe?

stillstrong posted 8/20/2013 10:21 AM

copout, I've been hoping to see you. I hope you're safe and have lots of law enforcement friends who can help you. Please stay safe

copout posted 8/20/2013 11:49 AM

Yes I'm safe,thanks for asking.
The crap just never ends.
Let's see, the brakes on my car have been tampered with,the police were called to mediation for my protection,he has entered my house several times while I was gone,last week he flashed his badge and the local law enforcement let him back into my house,he leaves strange things in my driveway, he has violated the restraining order nine times that I am aware of.The crap never ends.
At least I'm at a place where I'm not afraid and am no longer going to tolerate this garbage.
Once again I'm safe and life is so much better than it was!

nowiknow23 posted 8/20/2013 11:52 AM

Lordy. Sending you continued strength, copout.

Tearsoflove posted 8/20/2013 14:52 PM

I was gone,last week he flashed his badge and the local law enforcement let him back into my house,he leaves strange things in my driveway, he has violated the restraining order nine times that I am aware of.

Security cameras? Even if I had to borrow the money I'd have them installed if I were you.

Random thoughts posted 8/20/2013 16:36 PM

You should file a report with the police department about letting him into your house, he's not a cop anymore right?

Also contact a lawyer about the cops letting him have access into your home especially with him violating the restraining order 9 times.

copout posted 8/20/2013 19:18 PM

My son installed a security camera before he went back to school.
I don't live in the same county where we both worked,I called the Sheriff's office the other day and explained the situation,never heard back.
My attorney is well aware of all that has been going on.We just keep documenting everything.It's been a year hopefully this will be resolved in the near future.
He left a year ago to live with OW and I have not seen or talked to him since.I don't understand the need for all this crap,he is living the life he wanted.

caregiver9000 posted 8/20/2013 20:40 PM

(((hugs)))

I am so sorry. It does sound like you are doing all the right things. Empowering things.

What about a dog? Not a friendly I like everyone dog either. Maybe a retired K9 dog?

copout posted 8/21/2013 05:53 AM

I have the most wonderful Chow Chow who alerts me the second someone pulls into my driveway.If she is not outside and you make it to the front door she sounds as if she will tear you to pieces.
I do have a gate at the end of the driveway that is now securely locked and needs a key to be opened.
What a way to live.