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User Topic: How do I get through this one?
♀ 39439
Member # 39439
Default  Posted: 7:59 AM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's my anniversary this Friday. We've been back together for almost 10 months now, but I sure don't feel like celebrating. How did you guys make it through your next anniversary date knowing what you know now?
All I can think of is the last 4 years when we celebrated our anniversary, my WS was cheating on me. How can I celebrate when I'm feeling like this? My WS is trying really hard and understands the pain he has put me through, but is a little excited about our anniversary this year - maybe because he is once again in this marriage. But, even though I'm 100% here and want this R to work, I still can't stop the thoughts. Any advise?

And remember Murphy is right. Nothing is so bad that it can't get worse!!!

Posts: 1878 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Ontario, Canada
♂ 34086
Member # 34086
Default  Posted: 8:06 AM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You can start with not celebrating your anniversary if you aren't up to it. I've watched two of them come and go since DDay...and I didn't feel like celebrating either of them. What we did instead was went away for a couple of days near, but not on, our anniversary and played golf. That will have to do for now. I hate to say it, but at this time it's just another day anymore. It used to be real special, I took a lot of effort and made sure I got the "right" annual gift - this was the first year that I didn't (it was peridot this year). Maybe someday it will mean something again, but I'm not going to force it. It's just a casualty of the affair. I wouldn't force yourself to celebrate it - your H should just be happy that you are still in the M.

Married: 20 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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