It's been almost 6 weeks since DD, and I've been monitoring WH's text/phone/online activity closely.
In the wake of what I thought was "just" a long-distance EA, I asked him about other affairs...at first he denied, but eventually came clean about engaging in 2 ONS over the course of our marriage.
He rec'd a random text from most-recent ONS about a week ago.
I fell into a pit of sadness. Until that text, I had just sort of rugswept those emotions while dealing with the harassment and aftermath of the EA that led to the affair discovery in the 1st place.
It was a hard week, but I'm feeling better. He demanded NC, and has been good about reassuring me that our marriage is his top priority.
Last night, I was thinking about how different things would be for us right now if he hadn't been honest about those ONS in the beginning.
Man...you never know when your past is going to catch up with you. Honesty really is the best policy when it comes to surviving infidelity.