Absolutely. I have always had solid boundaries when it has come to men, but I find now that I want to interact with married men even less. I happened to meet someone today because we had something in common, and as soon as he pointed out his wife, I immediately pulled her into the conversation, started talking with her... I don't want any woman to ever think that she needs to worry about me, and I want any man that I interact with to know that I do have solid boundaries I won't cross. I hadn't really given that much thought before because I knew that I wouldn't cheat, and I just assumed that most people wouldn't.
I also have a cheater friend who I dumped years ago (her cheating was part of it, but her sociopathic personality was the larger part), and she makes my skin crawl when I do have to see her. Anyone like that who gives me a bad feeling in my gut is kept at arm's length. I'd like to think that I'm not totally cynical, but I am wary-- I've given people a free pass for years and tried to find the good in them, but that's over for me now. I refuse to waste my time on people who only want my companionship because I am of use to them.
[This message edited by tryingagain74 at 12:29 PM, August 20th (Tuesday)]