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strawblond30 posted 8/20/2013 17:51 PM

Is it normal that I cry hourly and he cries often and we both think we still love each other but need time apart to know for sure?? Is this normal .

sparklezombie posted 8/20/2013 19:09 PM

I hope so. Going through something similar here

ladies_first posted 8/20/2013 19:22 PM

strawblond30, Any chance you could update your taglines?

If you are, in fact, officially divorced ... you'll probably get a more honest answer.

Because Divorce is hugely painful, and when we're in pain we cry.

But it sounds like some denial going on if you're focused on time apart, and hoping to get back together, when as recently as the weekend he was out with others.

strawblond30 posted 8/20/2013 21:19 PM

He thinks after time apart we will know if we want each other or others. I can't move on he is dating .

Maxiom posted 8/20/2013 21:24 PM

It is normal but I want to caution you reading too much into your STBX or ex's reason for crying? It may be completely different from your own, yet you transfer your own reasons onto him.

Look.. he had many opportunities to be the husband for you. To stop his destructive behavior and work toward a true reconciliation. He did not.

On the information you have provided i suggest he is crying for purely selfish reasons. He liked the way things were when he got his women on the side and you were blissfully unaware of that. That is what he misses. That is what he currently laments.

This is a very disordered individual and you will be much better off without him in your life.