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RedRose (original poster member #39584) posted at 2:03 AM on Wednesday, August 21st, 2013
After Dday 2, my brain was telling me to leave WH, but in my heart, I still loved him and wanted to make our marriage work. After Dday 3, it seems the opposite has happened - my brain tells me that staying is best financially, best for the kids, but I am no longer sure that I love him after all he has put me through. Is it possible to fall in love with a WS again after such betrayal? I don't want to spend my life in a loveless marriage, but also want to keep my family together.
BW-37
WH - 38
2.5 year LTA
2nd A 2/20/16
I.will.survive ( member #34677) posted at 2:08 AM on Wednesday, August 21st, 2013
Of course it's possible! But not for me.
I think it's very individual as to whether you can move past such a betrayal to the point of falling in love again and trusting the WS completely.
I couldn't do it.
Nohopeleft ( new member #40356) posted at 3:40 AM on Wednesday, August 21st, 2013
I would love to know the answer as well.
I did remarkabley well with forgiveness and love after dd1 and dd2 but dd3 has done me in and left me in a very bad place emotionally.
I'm still trying to hold out help for my children's sake. I just worry what it will cost me.
Me: late 30s Husband: late 30s
M 14 years, T 18
C: 8 and 10
DD 1: 3/12 numerous PA from 95-05 resulted in me confessing to brief PA prior to marriage
DD 2: 4/12 RA with prost.
DD 3: 11/12 RA with old professor
Hoping for R but doubtful
RedRose (original poster member #39584) posted at 1:51 PM on Wednesday, August 21st, 2013
Nohope,
I feel exactly the same- forgave after Ddays 1 and 2, but now after Dday 3 feel completely different. Right now I am staying for the kids, but I know I can't do that forever. I'm worried that I don't love him anymore, and that I won't be able to get that back.
BW-37
WH - 38
2.5 year LTA
2nd A 2/20/16
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