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RedRose posted 8/20/2013 20:03 PM

After Dday 2, my brain was telling me to leave WH, but in my heart, I still loved him and wanted to make our marriage work. After Dday 3, it seems the opposite has happened - my brain tells me that staying is best financially, best for the kids, but I am no longer sure that I love him after all he has put me through. Is it possible to fall in love with a WS again after such betrayal? I don't want to spend my life in a loveless marriage, but also want to keep my family together.

I.will.survive posted 8/20/2013 20:08 PM

Of course it's possible! But not for me.

I think it's very individual as to whether you can move past such a betrayal to the point of falling in love again and trusting the WS completely.

I couldn't do it.

Nohopeleft posted 8/20/2013 21:40 PM

I would love to know the answer as well.

I did remarkabley well with forgiveness and love after dd1 and dd2 but dd3 has done me in and left me in a very bad place emotionally.

I'm still trying to hold out help for my children's sake. I just worry what it will cost me.

RedRose posted 8/21/2013 07:51 AM

Nohope,
I feel exactly the same- forgave after Ddays 1 and 2, but now after Dday 3 feel completely different. Right now I am staying for the kids, but I know I can't do that forever. I'm worried that I don't love him anymore, and that I won't be able to get that back.