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User Topic: im mr rude and mean
♀ 16305
Member # 16305
Default  Posted: 9:17 PM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So he doesnt want to take kids to cheer and football practise. Ds5 lost a piece of his flag belt last saturday bc wh let him play with the belt. He calls me screaming at me. Screaming. I couldnt get a word in edgewise so ended up screaming back (yes, stupid). He calls me a bitch then hangs up.

I email the coaches and tell them wh doesnt want to take the kids to practise.

When I get home its more screaming and sarcasm.

Turns to the car

H: I paid for the car repairs.
Me: yeah but you broke the car (he blew the engine on one wouldnt replace break shoes on the other so when I got the car back there was serious damage)..

H: I paid for the car repairs. All of them.

Me: you broke the cars. I paid the wear and tear.

H: no you didnt. And I didnt have to fix the cars. I could have sent them to the junk yard

Me: then do it.

He demands to go out and eat. He is home all day but doesnt cook and now he is hungry.

He wont pick a place but hates what I pick.

Wr finally go to applebees.

We are there less than 5 minutes when he gets up to go speak to the bartender.

Bartender comes over when wh is in the bathroom to apologise for the waitress being late. I was horrified. I said "but it was only 5 minutes".

Then its why didnt I do this or that for him. Now he has to do what he has to do.

She can have you.

I dont need her.

You cant do anything yourself (he doesnt. He bullies people into doing xyz or says I wont do it for him, the poor baby).

He starts on my job. Why do I work 12 hrs and get paid for 8.

Im trying to prove myself.

I was taken out of the possition. When he finds out he will start that im worthless and incomoetent.

Today I pushed for 2 days off bc im physically exaughsted. Now im reversing that request bc I dont want to be around him.

I called phase one of the national abuse line. Now I have local number.

Today he threatened leaving. I said it would be a gift.

He is as mean as he was when dd was born and then 2 yrs later when he started his a.

Time to be my own bff.

Posts: 9311 | Registered: Sep 2007 | From: NJ
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Member # 37184
Default  Posted: 9:32 PM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Did you tell him to shove those cars?

Hang in there,,,,

Posts: 1022 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: new york
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Member # 18622
Default  Posted: 9:45 PM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If I could I would come and physically take you out of that situation. The only reason he acts like an ass is because you put up with it. By put up with it I mean you let him get to you. Example: when he started yelling at you on the phone, and I believe he did this a few days ago as well, WTH didn't you just hang up on him? He can't argue with himself and if he proceeds to do so, then that's just more proof that he's a bullying dumbass. Stop letting him beat you down mentally. At the rate he's going, when you DO have your ducks in a row, you won't be able to move from sheer mental exhaustion. I DO applaud you for calling the hotline. Do that more often and check into resources for helping you to get away. There are tons of resources out there just waiting for you to access them. Hugs to you sweetie and prayers as well because your situation is just heartbreaking.

Givers need to set limits because takers never do.

Posts: 921 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: Planet Earth
♀ 16305
Member # 16305
Default  Posted: 4:38 AM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had been doing great by not reacting but im so tired from work I have no patience. Im being replaced today. I had bugged my original boss and this new guy for two days off to recoup but took back the request so I didnt have to be near wh.

He definitely is still with the skank. Im not angry. I just want him to go live with her. He wont bc then the fantasy dies and she wont let him breathe. She is not very trusting and is highly jealous and he knows this about her. If she is reading this, relax. Make him think he can go to the bar by himself etc. Let him think you give him space. He will go to you. I dont want anything from him. Nothing. I just want his drunken abusive ass away from us. You dont mind the way he is, but I do. My kids are making comments. He is all yours. Take him totally.

Time to be my own bff.

Posts: 9311 | Registered: Sep 2007 | From: NJ
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