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User Topic: Gaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah!
newlysingle
♀ 38735
Member # 38735
Default  Posted: 11:43 PM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hate them. I f'ing hate them! Broke NC today and am angry with myself for doing so. The Gnat informed me that he now has to take the court ordered parenting class in person. He took the online version of it which isn't allowed in our county (both myself and my attorney informed him of this, but he did it anyway). So he tells me this tonight and says proudly that Hello Kitty will be taking it with him, because she really cares about our children.

Really, really? She's only briefly met my dd and never met my DS. She certainly didn't show an ounce of concern for them when she was off screwing my husband while I was home nursing a newborn. She completely supported the Gnat in lying and deceiving both me and my children with no remorse. However, she now is really concerned about them. I'd love to see these two asshats in the parenting class when they discuss how damaging it is to children to be introduced to a new partner by that person already living in their home.

I seriously hate the two of them and want the karma bus to hit them at full speed. F'ing selfish losers!


BW - Me (38)
XWH -The Gnat
OW - Hello Kitty the Whore Engaged to the Gnat. I hear the white trash, wedding bells as we speak.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (7), 1 DS (2)
Dday 3/13
Happily Divorced 9/20/13

Posts: 961 | Registered: Mar 2013
newlysingle
♀ 38735
Member # 38735
Default  Posted: 11:48 PM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh and he still doesn't have a complete pool fence and is whining about not seeing the kids. I told him I was only going to say it one more time. No pool fence - no kids!


BW - Me (38)
XWH -The Gnat
OW - Hello Kitty the Whore Engaged to the Gnat. I hear the white trash, wedding bells as we speak.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (7), 1 DS (2)
Dday 3/13
Happily Divorced 9/20/13

Posts: 961 | Registered: Mar 2013
PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 11:52 PM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You cannot fix stupid.

I'm sorry, but the Gnat is stupid.


divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3631 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
Dreamboat
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Default  Posted: 12:12 AM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((hugs)))

Stand firm on the pool fence. It is so easy for little kids to wander off and a pool is just a magnet for them because they see pool and think "fun!".


And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
-- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine

Posts: 17695 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: A better place :)
newlysingle
♀ 38735
Member # 38735
Default  Posted: 12:15 AM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, he is so stupid. It's truly mind boggling.

I'm not backing down on the pool fence at all. I told him that I have to see it myself in person before the kids will be allowed over there.


BW - Me (38)
XWH -The Gnat
OW - Hello Kitty the Whore Engaged to the Gnat. I hear the white trash, wedding bells as we speak.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (7), 1 DS (2)
Dday 3/13
Happily Divorced 9/20/13

Posts: 961 | Registered: Mar 2013
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 12:27 AM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hello Kitty, now that she's taken your husband, has her sights set on taking your children.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

Posts: 10039 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
newlysingle
♀ 38735
Member # 38735
Default  Posted: 1:14 AM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, it appears that she thinks she is going to be super, step mommy. Dumb bitch.


BW - Me (38)
XWH -The Gnat
OW - Hello Kitty the Whore Engaged to the Gnat. I hear the white trash, wedding bells as we speak.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (7), 1 DS (2)
Dday 3/13
Happily Divorced 9/20/13

Posts: 961 | Registered: Mar 2013
newnormal
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Default  Posted: 6:32 AM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The rest of what I want to say isnt polite.


BS 43 (me)
FWH 48
D-day 9/07

Dont retreat, reload.
"Pull that knife out of your back - and sever the fuel line to that bus you got thrown under" Bufffalo


Posts: 1033 | Registered: Dec 2008
newlysingle
♀ 38735
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Default  Posted: 10:54 AM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh and his response to all if this was "I thought you'd be happy about this". Idiot.


BW - Me (38)
XWH -The Gnat
OW - Hello Kitty the Whore Engaged to the Gnat. I hear the white trash, wedding bells as we speak.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (7), 1 DS (2)
Dday 3/13
Happily Divorced 9/20/13

Posts: 961 | Registered: Mar 2013
peridot
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Default  Posted: 5:43 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Playing house only works for so long and then the kids start to see the truth. They can only pretend for so long.

If there is a gate on that fence, I would make sure he puts a lock on it as well.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


Posts: 4801 | Registered: Feb 2008
Catwoman
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Default  Posted: 7:51 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In most states that I am aware, it is a law that you have to enclose a pool with a fence. It is an attractive nuisance. I would be very surprised if a concerned neighbor didn't anonymously call the local authorities and make sure that someone contacted your STBX and explained the pool fence rule to him. You know, all in the spirit of being all concerned about the welfare of all the kids in the neighborhood.

Cat


FBS: Married 20 years, 2 daughters 25 and 22. Divorced by the grace of GOD.
D-Days: 2/23/93; 10/11/97; 3/5/03
Ex & OW Broke up 12-10
"An erection does not count as personal growth."

Posts: 29717 | Registered: Apr 2003 | From: Massachusetts
newlysingle
♀ 38735
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Default  Posted: 11:10 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Catwoman- we live in Phoenix and everyone here has full cinder block enclosed backyard whether there's a pool or not. So that's not an issue. This is a separate fence between the house and pool so that kids can't get out the back door and fall into the pool.

I'm going to inspect the pool tomorrow. He said the fence is now up. I know there's a gate because that was the hold up. The gate they originally brought was broken. It was installed by a professional company, so I'm sure it's okay. Most of the pool gates here have the T latch on them. It's like a bar that has to be pulled up from the top before you can open it. The latch licks with a key as well. This is what we have on the fence at our house.


BW - Me (38)
XWH -The Gnat
OW - Hello Kitty the Whore Engaged to the Gnat. I hear the white trash, wedding bells as we speak.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (7), 1 DS (2)
Dday 3/13
Happily Divorced 9/20/13

Posts: 961 | Registered: Mar 2013
homewrecked2011
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Default  Posted: 7:51 AM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think the parenting classes might bring Gnat out of the fog a little bit. Don't you think it's going to be sketchy when the husband brings a GIRLFRIEND to a Parenting class when he is still married to the children's mother?

I hope someone in that class nails him on it!

I would definately get with your atty and get the First Right of Refusal in your Divorce. It has been awesome this summer for me! My work slowed down so the days XWH had to work, the girlfriend didn't get to keep them -- I did.

Also, in SC the GF can't spend the night with XWH. It wasn't too hard to enforce it as the dumbass parked his vehicle over night in her driveway on his visitation night. Then I found out he lives there. 1 email and 1 atty call was all it took. He can't have them overnight unless he gets his own place. Or marries her. Which may happen, I don't know, but it gives me a little more time to have some control over the situation.

Also, you can ask for lots of things in the D. Then you can enforce it in about 6 months when they aren't expecting it. for example:

The other thing I got was no drinking and then driving with the children in the car. I'm about to have a PI take care of that, just gotta save a little $$$ up.

Also, your H and she may seem gloriously happy now, but pretty soon she is going to be having the same issues with him that you did. I found out OW is sleeping around on my XWH. They act all happy and cozy when I see them, but I know the truth now and it is funny as hell!!!

OW got my XH, now she wants my children. She can have him, she'll NEVER get them.

[This message edited by homewrecked2011 at 8:03 AM, August 22nd (Thursday)]


Keep Calm and Happy On!

me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed


Posts: 2328 | Registered: Jan 2012
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 8:13 AM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My divorce parenting class had a guy with his girlfriend attend. Once it was apparent GF was not going to be quiet, the instructors asked her to leave. Some of us clapped when she left.

Thought I would share my experience.

Hugs.
K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5551 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
newlysingle
♀ 38735
Member # 38735
Default  Posted: 3:54 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks everyone for your kind words and advice. Yes , they are going to the parenting class tonight. I would love to think that it might make them look bad to everyone there, but these two are so delusional that I have a feeling it will just go over their heads. They of course think their lurve is "special" and "different" from those other people that have affairs.

I do have first right of refusal, so that is taken care of. I did initially have a morality clause stating he couldn't introduce the kids for one year post D, but my attorney told me that they are pretty much impossible to enforce and I knew the Gnat would just do it anyway. I ended up just dropping it.

I went to the house today to see the pool fence, which is fine. I texted the Gnat and told him I was on my way and to tell Hello Kitty to steer clear. I get there and of course the dumb bitch is home. I thought she might be smart and leave. Her dogs were inside, but barking at me. The dumb whore actually came to the window to quiet the dogs and said "sorry" to me. I gave her the dirtiest look. I had a friend with me and my friend even said "wow, she has a lot of balls". She couldn't even respect me enough to give me 3 minutes to check the fence on my own.

I came home and just cried. They have a nice house (but I do too), they have two dogs, etc. We lost our beloved dog just before DDay. I feel like he just replaced us without a second thought. He even has new dogs. I know I'm better off without him, but it still hurts so damn much.

I can only hope that they have a life of misery together.


BW - Me (38)
XWH -The Gnat
OW - Hello Kitty the Whore Engaged to the Gnat. I hear the white trash, wedding bells as we speak.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (7), 1 DS (2)
Dday 3/13
Happily Divorced 9/20/13

Posts: 961 | Registered: Mar 2013
h0peless
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Default  Posted: 5:14 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Catwoman- we live in Phoenix and everyone here has full cinder block enclosed backyard whether there's a pool or not. So that's not an issue. This is a separate fence between the house and pool so that kids can't get out the back door and fall into the pool.

That actually isn't the law in your county. Here is the pertinent part:

If a building wall comprises part of the pool barrier and the subject wall contains
doors or windows providing direct access to the pool, a separate barrier must be
installed between the house and pool.

http://www.maricopa.gov/regulations/pd/pdf/policy/201215.pdf

Essentially, there cannot be direct access to the pool from any windows or doors of the house, even if the rest of the yard is enclosed. I know it's common on older properties up there but it sounds like his pool area is not up to code.


Posts: 1811 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Baja Arizona
newlysingle
♀ 38735
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Default  Posted: 6:22 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hopeless- that is the way his fence is. It is up to code. You cannot enter the pool via any backdoor or window without going through the locked pool gate. So he is good. I think Catwoman just thought that the entire yard was open, so any neighbor kid could just jump in the pool. The yard is enclosed and now there's a separate fence between the house and pool.


BW - Me (38)
XWH -The Gnat
OW - Hello Kitty the Whore Engaged to the Gnat. I hear the white trash, wedding bells as we speak.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (7), 1 DS (2)
Dday 3/13
Happily Divorced 9/20/13

Posts: 961 | Registered: Mar 2013
NWfleur
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Default  Posted: 12:08 AM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh and his response to all if this was "I thought you'd be happy about this". Idiot.

My ex said this sort of stuff all the time. Unbelievable.

If it's any solace, my ex and his OW fizzled out after about a year, right after he was threatening to bring her around our kids because she was "a very special person to him." Then it failed like all the statistics of affairs said it would. Not sure about your case, but don't give up on the karma bus just yet...


Me BS (39)
Him WS (36)
2 DS
M: 9 years (together 13)
DD: 4/10/2012
(Separated since 12/11...affair began ??!!)

Divorced!!!


Posts: 324 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: USA
newlysingle
♀ 38735
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Default  Posted: 8:10 AM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

NWfleur- thanks. I don't see it lasting long either, but it may take a couple of years. I think that because they've both invested a lot into this A. She moved across country, they've gotten into a ton of debt together buying all new furniture, etc. I figure they'll ride this out to the bitter end. Sucks to be them!


BW - Me (38)
XWH -The Gnat
OW - Hello Kitty the Whore Engaged to the Gnat. I hear the white trash, wedding bells as we speak.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (7), 1 DS (2)
Dday 3/13
Happily Divorced 9/20/13

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