So after their chat, my ex texts me "Hey, I saw flowers. Are you dating someone?" To which I didn't even respond. We aren't best friends dumb ass, don't worry about what I am doing.
I really wanted to respond with, "Does it matter, we are divorcing," but I figured no response is better than a response that he could bait me into a fight.
A)He doesn't like the idea of you moving on, feeling a ping of jealousy.
B) He wants to you to confirm you are moving on - so he can rid himself of any guilt.
C) Idle curiosity.
Crickets is the response to any of the above! Whatever his reasoning you don't want it coming into play during a D. (I say that because I know my X would have used such info to amp up anger and to try and punish me during D...)
But in my case I would guess if she ever did inquire it would be either "B" or "C". But probably leaning more towards "B". After all she willingly gave up quite a bit at mediation to me because of guilt for what she was doing. Why should she act any differently now?
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have." ~ Bob Marley
But that's none of his business, and I make no bones about reminding him of that.
"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you."
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling