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So yesterday, my STBXH had a video chat with our son. I guess at some point, the video showed my dresser which had my brand new flowers that Mr. Officer sent me since my son is only 2 and can't hold the camera straight for the whole 15 minutes.

So after their chat, my ex texts me "Hey, I saw flowers. Are you dating someone?" To which I didn't even respond. We aren't best friends dumb ass, don't worry about what I am doing.

I really wanted to respond with, "Does it matter, we are divorcing," but I figured no response is better than a response that he could bait me into a fight.

Why does he care?

Possible reasons:

A)He doesn't like the idea of you moving on, feeling a ping of jealousy.

B) He wants to you to confirm you are moving on - so he can rid himself of any guilt.

C) Idle curiosity.

Crickets is the response to any of the above! Whatever his reasoning you don't want it coming into play during a D. (I say that because I know my X would have used such info to amp up anger and to try and punish me during D...)

I'm pretty sure my exWW knows I've been dating, etc. Generally speaking because some of my friends have asked me and I just tell them the truth, but I know it's probably gotten back to her. But I've never spoken to her directly about it nor will I. My son has only met one of the women I'm currently dating and that is on a very casual basis (just dinner, beach and she took us all to a Jags game with tickets her office gave her). But I still don't do any PDA stuff in front of him with her because he's still young and getting used to all this divorce stuff still I believe. I think at his age it has to be hard seeing one of your parent's with another person that isn't your mom.

But in my case I would guess if she ever did inquire it would be either "B" or "C". But probably leaning more towards "B". After all she willingly gave up quite a bit at mediation to me because of guilt for what she was doing. Why should she act any differently now?

Wasband is convinced I've been dating constantly for the past year. In fact, I haven't been on a single date and have no interest in it.

But that's none of his business, and I make no bones about reminding him of that.

When in doubt, though there is little here, **crickets** is the way to go