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Bluebird26 posted 8/21/2013 06:44 AM

We missed an appointment for my son due to transportation issues and had to reschedule.

Now xwh had very little interest in his children when we were married, even less interest now. But as per our decree I advise in writing of every appointment and 2 years later is still yet to show up to any or anything kid related.

We had to reschedule to the day he picks up youngest ds for the weekend, appointment should finish at the time he picks up ds at my home. Specialist is in the same suburb as I live, less then 2 km from my home, technically closer to his house then mine.

So I let him know he can meet us at appointment and take son from there.

Now he had already let me know in a previous email that he was off work on this day.

I got a reply email saying "I can't remember where ds has to go to see specialist name, so I will meet you at your place once you are done"

OMG! Really have you ever heard of google? The really ironic part is he works in the IT industry.

Google the address, ask me for the address, pick kid up early and take him to the appointment, do something for your child.

Muppet!

SBB posted 8/21/2013 06:53 AM

Lower muppet. I seriously wonder how some of them manage to breathe with the scant brain power they have.

[This message edited by StrongButBroken at 4:22 PM, August 21st (Wednesday)]

newlysingle posted 8/21/2013 11:04 AM

OMG. The Gnat works is also a techie, yet any sort of common sense evades him. He wouldn't have figured the address either. Please give us smart men the next time around!

dmari posted 8/21/2013 11:47 AM

Aacckk!! I can totally relate! I used to think stbx was playing the "stupid card" so that he wouldn't have to do anything but now I realize he. is. that. stupid.

LifeIsBroken posted 8/21/2013 20:40 PM

Tell him you are not going directly home after the appt, give him the dr's address and the time he needs to be there. If he doesn't show, don't go home. He wants to be 'in charge' and this is one way of doing that. Normally I would say tell him you're no longer his secretary and not bother giving him the address but, if you do not want him at your home (I wouldn't give him the satisfaction of going to your home, but that's just me) let him know you'll not be going directly there. And, because he's obviously kind of dense, let him know the dr's office is closer to his address than your home is. I'm ever soooo grateful I didn't have small children when I had to go through this crap. Not sure I could have done it. It was hard enough having to live the heartbreak of our adult daughters as they watched their father's meltdown. They are adults so we three supported one another through the alien invasion.

Bluebird26 posted 8/22/2013 21:33 PM

@ Life is Broken

I have to go home, I would have been anyway. But it is in our court orders that the pick up is to occur at my home. It just would have been easier but nothing is easy with my ex. I should know this by now.

I am more gobsmacked that he couldn't or wouldn't work the address and take the opportunity to actually go to an appointment. He knows where this specialist is, just choosing not to participate in ds life yet again. As he always whinges that I make the appointments at the wrong times for him to attend. I of course have offered for him to make the appointments but it is easier to whinge than to fix it.

Strongmama posted 8/22/2013 22:49 PM

They're all lower muppets! F'ing self involved idiots!!
My Ex thinks he's some kind of logistics expert....he can't find anything; except one whore after another:).