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User Topic: Good Day
struggling3
♀ 34671
Member # 34671
Default  Posted: 7:51 AM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Today is our 31st wedding anniversary and it feels like we are in a really good place. My H has really stuck with the ups and downs of that roller-coaster (as he should). He has shown such remorse, compassion, and has made me know that I am his everything. He knows that I still have some struggles and is time after time there for me and makes me feel beautiful and wanted after all of these years. After two years of dealing with this shit...I am rapidly feeling better. Had to share my good
day.


Me - BS 55
H - WS 57/very remorseful and supportive
Kids 29, 26, 22
D-Day 8-5-11
discovered 4 month long EA
R - slow and steady but very optimistic

Posts: 342 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: New Jersey
Sadwife222
♀ 40050
Member # 40050
Default  Posted: 8:24 AM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Our marriage counselor, who was cheated on eleven years ago, told me it took her two years to get to the other side.
I'm happy for you and hoping I will feel happy again when I'm at the two-year mark. It is getting better but it's ever so slowly.


Me BW, Him WH (sosorry54)
DD 4/12/13
TT until 9/18/14

Posts: 151 | Registered: Jul 2013
LosferWords
♂ 30369
Member # 30369
Default  Posted: 8:26 AM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is great to hear. Congrats, struggling3!


Why don't you just say it? I'm the worst toy-maker in the world. I'm a Cotton-Headed Ninnymuggins!

Posts: 8245 | Registered: Dec 2010
AFrayedKnot
♂ 36622
Member # 36622
Default  Posted: 8:58 AM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


BS 40
fWS 37 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

Posts: 2692 | Registered: Aug 2012
nekorb
♀ 40306
Member # 40306
Default  Posted: 9:34 AM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wonderful!

You give me hope....


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

Posts: 1838 | Registered: Aug 2013
jo2love
♀ 31528
Member # 31528
Default  Posted: 10:38 AM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wonderful update!

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Twentyplus
♀ 39593
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Default  Posted: 11:00 AM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

31st anniversary coming up in Nov. While not where you are, so very much better and actually looking forward to celebrating this one,

Appreciate your post.


"But we must supply our own light." - Stanley Kubrick


Posts: 68 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: The Big Blue Sea
ohiocarrie535
♀ 39709
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Default  Posted: 1:25 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've heard over and over the 2-5 year mantra. At 6 months it's disheartening to think I have another 18 months of this roller coaster! Ugh!!!

Posts: 84 | Registered: Jun 2013
forgivingnow
♀ 33549
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Default  Posted: 3:05 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Happy Anniversary!!!!


Me-BS 51
FWH-51
M 31 yrs.
Dday 3-19-11, TT 10/2011, Full truth July 2013
Strength comes from within. You can't get it from someone or go somewhere to get it. It is already here, waiting to be used when you need it most. Believe in yourself.
R

Posts: 624 | Registered: Oct 2011
struggling3
♀ 34671
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Default  Posted: 7:27 AM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks everyone for the good wishes. I went to his office to surprise him for lunch. It is far from home and she works in the same building. It was great...no triggers...very romantic. We had the very best day and I was on cloud nine.

Ohiocarrie535

I've heard over and over the 2-5 year mantra. At 6 months it's disheartening to think I have another 18 months of this roller coaster! Ugh!!!
I wish I could tell you this isn't so but sadly it really is. I have had just about the best case scenario with my H doing everything right and it was still damn hard at times. I can still have some really bad moments. Just hang in there and try to stay in the present as much as possible. I'm not saying to rugsweep your feelings...let them happen...talk about them and try to let it go and get back to the present and staying close. Good luck


Me - BS 55
H - WS 57/very remorseful and supportive
Kids 29, 26, 22
D-Day 8-5-11
discovered 4 month long EA
R - slow and steady but very optimistic

Posts: 342 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: New Jersey
bionicgal
♀ 39803
Member # 39803
Default  Posted: 8:19 AM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So nice to hear!


me - BS (45) - DDay - June 2013
A was 2+ months, EA/PA
In MC & Reconciling
"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point to move forward." -- C.S. Lewis.

Posts: 2247 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
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