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User Topic: OW Trying To Make Contact
MsRukia
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Member # 40219
Default  Posted: 10:07 AM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So WH was at Walmart yesterday and saw her. He said he avoided her and was not sure if she saw him. He then came to my work to pick up his Camel Back before picking up a buddy to go camping. As he was telling me about how uncomfy it was to see her, she texted him. She said something to the effect of "you can't avoid me forever. We live in a small town." Then this morning my phone showed a notification that she had tried to Friend me on Face Book. Gah I think the crazy is coming. I tightened up security on my FB, on WH, and now I have to figure out how to block her number. WH said he tried to block her number on his phone but had trouble. He said he wasn't going to text her back. We shall see when he gets home.


BS (34)
WS MisterP (37)
Together 14 1/2 years
D Day 03 Aug 13 EA & PA
D Day #2 01 Sep 13 continued EA & PA with OW
Slowly but surely finding my way.

Posts: 177 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Colorado Springs
strongerdaybyday
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Member # 40264
Default  Posted: 10:12 AM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Many cell phones have the option to block specific numbers, but there's nothing you can do if she calls from a private or blocked number.

What about changing his number altogether? My H's OW tried to friend me on fb and sent me a private msg on fb. When I didn't respond, she came to my house! Good luck (((HUGS)))


Me-BW Him - WH
Married 6 years, together 13+ years
D-Day Summer 2013
children-3
If it is what it is then what is it?

**If I edit I'm correcting a typo!**


Posts: 387 | Registered: Aug 2013
MsRukia
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Member # 40219
Default  Posted: 10:16 AM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Stronger that's what I am worried about. She is our neighbor
Working on a moving plan, but the more unavailable we are the better. I might look into changing our numbers. I am not sure why I didn't think of that.


BS (34)
WS MisterP (37)
Together 14 1/2 years
D Day 03 Aug 13 EA & PA
D Day #2 01 Sep 13 continued EA & PA with OW
Slowly but surely finding my way.

Posts: 177 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Colorado Springs
Rebreather
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Member # 30817
Default  Posted: 10:20 AM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It is good he said he would not text her back, but he really needs to FEEL that deep in his bones, that nothing could make him text her back.

It's good to have plans in place. You know she is going to ramp it up, so be prepared. If she calls, he hangs up. No talking, nothing. Just hangs up. If he sees her in public and she approaches him, he turns and leaves. Period. You can work on these strategies together to ensure it is handled properly. Otherwise, he will say hi to her and then tell you "I didn't want to be rude" or whatever. He needs to embrace the rude.


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

Posts: 6693 | Registered: Jan 2011
strongerdaybyday
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Member # 40264
Default  Posted: 10:21 AM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Your neighbour?..ugh..even worse

Hopefully, she'll keep herself at a distance (when it comes to you)...don't be surprised if she doesn't; just be prepared. Rebreather has some good advice too.

I feel like I got "ambushed" and had nothing intelligent to say (i was so numb i could barely respond!) there's so much i would have said if i had known he cheated/who she was (when she tried to "friend" me i didn't know who she was so i just deleted the request.)

[This message edited by strongerdaybyday at 10:23 AM, August 21st (Wednesday)]


Me-BW Him - WH
Married 6 years, together 13+ years
D-Day Summer 2013
children-3
If it is what it is then what is it?

**If I edit I'm correcting a typo!**


Posts: 387 | Registered: Aug 2013
Kelany
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Default  Posted: 10:28 AM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Each cell carrier is different. We have Verizon and I can go online and block numbers.


BS - Me
SA/FWH Him
DDay 1 - Jul 11
DDay 2 - Jul 12
R Dec 12

Former 80s Icon wishful thinking


Posts: 2031 | Registered: Feb 2012
BeyondBreaking
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Default  Posted: 10:38 AM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm not sure what phone company you have, but I would take the cell phone straight into the store and have the employees show you AND WH how to block her number on the phone. If they can't do it in the store, call the phone company and have her number blocked on your account.

You can also block her from both of your FB accounts to where she can't see or contact you or try to friend you.

Additionally, I would speak to someone from the local sheriff's office and see what you need to do in order to prove harassment and get charges pressed. They will let you know if you need to send a certified letter from an attorney, etc... Did you already send her a NC letter?

Definitely screenshot and save everything that she tries in the meantime. Neighbor or not, she is not allowed to harass the two of you and she needs to respect your need for distance. I tend to be an extreamist about this issue- in my case I was able to get a restraining order against OW and my life has been NOTHING but AWESOME since I don't have to worry about her (if she violates the NC order in anyway- being closer than 500ft to me or my daughter, trying to contact either of us, OR having a third party contact us on her behalf- she goes straight to jail for 2 weeks. Do not pass go, do not collect $200). I HIGHLY recommend it.


I have been cheated on by 3 different men, and I have more DDays than anyone ever should. I am here, just trying to pickup the pieces.

At least the current man "only" cyber-cheated.

"Love means never having to say you're sorry."


Posts: 840 | Registered: Jan 2013
MsRukia
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Default  Posted: 2:49 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He texted her back! So mad
He said basically "leave me alone."
She texted him back basically saying "you're castrated".
I will get to read the actual exchange later .
This is not going to build trust with me, I asked him not to engage her.


BS (34)
WS MisterP (37)
Together 14 1/2 years
D Day 03 Aug 13 EA & PA
D Day #2 01 Sep 13 continued EA & PA with OW
Slowly but surely finding my way.

Posts: 177 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Colorado Springs
Girlietoo
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Default  Posted: 3:29 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Why oh why did he reply?? ugh! I'm so sorry. I hope he knows going forward that this constitutes breaking NC.


Me- 40
Him- 47
March 9, 2013- the day my heart died

Posts: 251 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Canada
MsRukia
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Default  Posted: 4:07 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Cause he's a damn idiot who thinks it's going to get her to leave us alone. He didn't have the courtesy to discuss any response before hand. He didn't think about how I would feel about him contacting her. He just wanted again, to do it his way. Well his damn way didn't work. Now he left the house with our oldest and he feels unloved because I am pissed. What the hell?! Do you not get how stupid it was to text her back?! So pissed.

Ugh it's his damn fault he had the affair.


BS (34)
WS MisterP (37)
Together 14 1/2 years
D Day 03 Aug 13 EA & PA
D Day #2 01 Sep 13 continued EA & PA with OW
Slowly but surely finding my way.

Posts: 177 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Colorado Springs
Rebreather
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Member # 30817
Default  Posted: 4:10 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Has he written her an official NC letter?


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

Posts: 6693 | Registered: Jan 2011
MsRukia
♀ 40219
Member # 40219
Default  Posted: 10:02 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No. Is there an article or link to that on here?


BS (34)
WS MisterP (37)
Together 14 1/2 years
D Day 03 Aug 13 EA & PA
D Day #2 01 Sep 13 continued EA & PA with OW
Slowly but surely finding my way.

Posts: 177 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Colorado Springs
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