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Saturday evening FWH and I were at a car show with a friend of mine. We were walking along when I looked up and OW and her young dd were walking towards us. I said, oh jesus can't we go anywhere. He took my hand and walked me over to look at another car. The owner of the car started talking to him and my friend started talking to me. That BITCH walked over by us as close as she could get. I said to my friend "I can't believe they let whores walk around decent people" she then called me a BITCH! I said, "At least I don't fuck other womens husbands" My FWH then came over to me and put his arm around me and kissed me. I was shaking so bad! And I felt horrible for saying those things in front of her dd, even though she didn't seem to mind putting her in between us. I also felt bad for my friend, who had no idea what was going on at first. She asked me if that was her and I said yes. She asked me how old she was and I told her 46. She said, wow.. I thought she was in her 60's. She later told me that she was talking to me and she looked at me and instantly knew I wasn't hearing her. She said that I had a look on my face that should have made OW run for her life.

I am so tired of running into her. I know she only went to that car show because she knew we would be there! My FWH has ran the car show for my girls marching band for 4 yrs now. She knows he goes to every car show to pass out flyers. She went to that car show hoping to run into him! Even after over a year of NC she is still either trying to get him to want her or trying to piss me off! Either way, I am about to snap!!!

I sat down and wrote her a letter. It was a very calm letter. Telling her how I felt sorry for her kids. Asking her if she has so little self respect that she needs to chase a married man. That she is wasting her time. I borrowed pieces from someone on here's letter telling her that she was lucky that I had more self respect and compassion than her or I would have already outed her to everyone and that one day she might not be so lucky if she keeps chasing married men.I told her she wasn't anyone special she just filled a void and anyone that was willing to fill his head with lies would have worked. I also told her that I did not invite her into my life, that I do not want her there and if she continues to show up were we are then I will call her names, that is my right. She on the other hand has no right to call me anything or be pissed at me. I have done nothing to her. I told her that neither one of us want to see her around town. I said that if she has any self respect at all she will stop chasing a married man who has proven he wants nothing to do with her. I then printed it out and mailed it to her. I addressed it to "anywoman" something else I borrowed from the letter I had read on here, and signed it "His Wife" I also used the printer to print her address on the envelope. She will know who it is from, but there are no names in the letter so no way she could ever prove it was from me.

I'm so sorry that she can't just leave you alone.

At this point, I would advise NC completely. All your letter is going to to is let her know that she's getting under your skin, which is what she wants.

Unless you're interested in filing a restraining order, which might not be a bad idea, treating her as if she doesn't even exist is a better signal than acknowledging her in public or sending her a letter. She's not going to hear you, and it will only fuel her to nose into your life more often.

The next thing she gets from you is a letter from your lawyer. Crickets, otherwise. Believe me when I tell you this is how to save your sanity.

(((shatteredheart7)))

I am so sorry you experienced this, shatteredheart7.
This woman is a brazen opportunist with no self respect. That you spoke out in front of her child is unfortunate, but she deserved it because she created the situation. Her behavior shows that she wants to upset you.
It's best to ignore such trash. If she doesn't let up consider a restraining order.

I know ppl say take the high road and it so hard because they hit real low ! They were brutally unfair and just evil!

You did we'll I think because I probably would have lost it , and I'm not at all a violent person.

I have thought about a restraining order, however where I live its hard to get one. they have to physically assault you first.

I try not to contact her, really I do. But... she pisses me off so much its either I let it out now or I hold it in and one day I will snap, and it will be bad! I have a pretty bad temper. The only thing that kept me from attacking her sat was my FIL was just down the street and would have seen and he already thinks I am a horrible person and she literally kept her 10 yr old daughter between us.