I found this article and I must say that A LOT made sense ! I don't feel that this is the only answer to WHY they did what they did. But I understand now why my H became the asshole he did, why he gave me ridiculous answers....it made me crazy..I was always like "you expect me to accept your BS answer?"
DD 6/26/10 (he broke down & confessed)
DD#2 3/14/11 H in OW's car
TT 7/1/11 (NC broken, through emails)