Hello, and welcome, Remone.
How far out are you from d-day? Have you told her the entire truth.
The anger stage starts right away for some, for others it can start as late as six months out, from what I have seen.
Also, if there has been TT (trickle truth), where new information continues to trickle out instead of being offered up front, the anger stage can extend and intensify.
I feel like she doesn't want to be near me but I don't want to just leave her alone. I want to respect what she needs while still letting her know I'm here and I understand her anger.
Have you told her this? Now is definitely a time to go by her cues as much as you can.
That anger is going to be there, no matter what, it's just a matter of her getting it out.
In the meantime, what steps are you taking to work on yourself to examine why you did what you did, and what you can do to make yourself a safe person?
Again, welcome to SI. I think you'll find a great deal of information and support here.