Another baby was something we had been talking about before my A. We wanted to add to our family. But then after my husband found out about my A we wanted to wait so we could figure everything out and so we could heal the damage I had done to us.
I ended up getting pregnant about 3 months after D-Day. We didn't know until I was about 2 months pregnant. So at the time we found out we were almost 5 months out from D-Day.
I had our baby at the end of April this year. Honestly, it was hard because that close to D-Day we weren't sure about another baby. We weren't sure how things were going to be between us.
Are you both able to love and care for the child properly
Yes, we are still able to love and care for our kids properly. We had our kids out of love. So we aren't going to let anything come in the way of how we care for our kids. Even when we are having a disagreement we still parent our kids together.
Ever since having our son though, things have been good. We have been able to parent him and our daughter the same. We talk about how to raise our kids together.
Now I wish that we would have waited to have another baby. But nonetheless, he is here and it is good. There have been days that things are not so good, my husband having bad days because of what I did. But we are working on things. Having a baby hasn't really hindered on our healing.
You just need to talk about it with your husband and figure out when the time is right.