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pewpewpew posted 8/21/2013 18:07 PM

Today I have felt "off".
I cannot place my finger on it.
Sure WH was a few minutes late from work but nothing to raise an eyebrow...
But, when I expressed concern to whereas he usually laughs it off - he got defensive.
After a few minutes of unwind time - he apologized - said he's super stressed at work - which is true.
But - I can't shake a gut feeling...
I don't even trust my gut anymore BUT something is off for sure.

madsadalone posted 8/21/2013 18:34 PM

Trust your gut, it is preparing you.

Kierst13 posted 8/21/2013 18:34 PM

Yes, and so far it hasn't been wrong. Trust your gut and go into stealth digging mode if you need to.

sparklezombie posted 8/21/2013 18:36 PM

Yep. And every time my feeling has been spot on. Trust your intuition.

whatnow8 posted 8/21/2013 18:38 PM

Yes. I'm where you are now, just a feeling that something is off. I haven't trusted my gut until recently, but I've had this feeling for a long time. And now that I am I think I'm finally starting to uncover some things.

Trust it. Stay calm. Start digging.

[This message edited by whatnow8 at 6:38 PM, August 21st (Wednesday)]

tushnurse posted 8/21/2013 18:55 PM

Those gut feelings are usually right. Occasionally it ends in. Surprise that it's something else or even one time a surprise for me! But everything it's been right

Nature_Girl posted 8/21/2013 19:06 PM

EVERY feeling I ever had meant something was going on or I was about to discover something. Even now that we're separated and almost divorced, I still get feelings and BAM! Something comes up.

krazy8516 posted 8/21/2013 21:40 PM

How many minutes is a few?

Ever since I found out my husband was cheating on me I've felt "off." I'm not saying it's nothing, I'm just saying it's normal to not feel quite right these days. I would keep an eye out, but my suggestion is not to obsess over one "off" moment, but that's JMO.

*Edited because I'm crazy tired and can't see straight.

[This message edited by krazy8516 at 9:41 PM, August 21st (Wednesday)]

gonnabe2016 posted 8/21/2013 22:01 PM

3P....the one absolute thing that I've learned from this shitstorm is to ALWAYS trust you gut.

There isn't always fire where you see smoke, but......

Ixion posted 8/21/2013 22:07 PM

I am going to agree with gonnabe here. The problem with this situation (in my personal experience) is that we suffer an utter blindside betrayal. This makes us emotionally suspicious of everything and always trying not to allow ourselves to relax, so that we are not caught out again.

I get a hundred of these 'not quite right' feelings every day, and thats an improvement on last month. 90% are nothing, but I remember the 10% that are linked to a new fact or realisation, and so this feeling becomes a warning, even if it is 90% wrong.

This feeling does not tell you that something is wrong. It just tells you that you are uneasy. Dont ignore it, as you may have picked up on something that you should know, but dont convict anyone based on a gut feeling.

These days, a gut feeling tells me that I need to look deeper, and either I find something and I was right, or I dont and I feel better. Either way, look out for yourself.

[This message edited by Ixion at 10:43 PM, August 22nd (Thursday)]

Sadwife222 posted 8/22/2013 08:26 AM

I agree. Sometimes my "gut" is really my PTSD kicking back in from all the trauma of the lies and betrayals.