She doesn't want me living in the house at all and she doesn't want to work on our marriage. She still checks my Facebook account though LOL
How should I be acting and what should I be doing or not be doing?
You might start by considering the trauma she has been through and not LOLing at the hypervigilance the trauma has caused her to react with. Please look up "Post Infidelity Stress Disorder" and go from there.
Will she change her mind in the future and want to R?
What are you doing to make her feel safe with you? What steps are you taking to find out why you cheated?
Her changing her mind will depend, in large part, on whether you find empathy for her pain and resolve whatever issues caused you to cheat.
Read the thread in this forum "What every WS should know" and read all of the Healing Library (yellow box, left side). Then sit quietly for a while and consider what has been done and said in your relationship so far, up to and including the cheating and discovery of it.
She's having a very natural reaction. She may ultimately decide this is a deal breaker for her. But you can work hard to heal yourself and work hard to help her heal at the same time. You're most likely looking at the end of your relationship if you don't heal yourself first, though.
[This message edited by Threnody at 8:25 AM, August 22nd (Thursday)]