What advice do you reconcilers whose marriages have improved since DDay have about maintaining whatever good that has come as a result of the hard work done after DDay?
My H and I are about 3 months out from DDay. We are in MC and have been working so hard together to get the ship righted. I think we both, ironically, feel closer than we have in as long as we can remember. He has made significant changes in his way of functioning in our marriage and in our family. I have done a lot of growing as well, and made some big changes, too. We are both, for the first time, meeting each other's needs and putting each other first.
But, the real life of Fall is almost here, and I will be going back to work. H is hititng a period of high business travel and will be gone 2-3 weeks in Sept. Such tremendous stress. Plus, although in some ways this has been " the best of times", it has also obviously been the worst. I have all the pain, fear, anger, mind movies etc., to keep processing, and he has his own remorse and sadness to deal with.
Like I said, we are in MC, but if anyone has ideas on how to maintain the gains we've made and keep moving foraward, especially when trying to meet the demands of work and family, and travel, I'd appreciate it. I don't want the marriage to go back to sleep again.
[This message edited by bionicgal at 9:20 AM, August 22nd (Thursday)]