Topic: Nothing new - just sucks
Member # 39429
| Posted: 10:12 AM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013|
Went to bed mad. Woke up sad. No triggers, nothing new - just crap resurfacing.
My wife and I have had the best couple of weeks ever lately. Traveled together, enjoying life. Very little of the "yuck."
Today - different story.
She is completely, completely supportive. But the shit just doesn't go away.
Just venting a little - to the people who can relate the most.
Me - BS - 46
Her - WW - 38 (2 ONS)
DD20, DD18, DD17, DS16, DS16
D Day - Dec 24, 2012 -
R - 20 months and going extremely well.
Posts: 39 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Montana
Member # 34086
| Posted: 10:58 AM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013|
But the shit just doesn't go away
Yeah, I can relate to this mate. Hopefully it's just part of the rollercoaster. What are you doing for yourself?
Married: 19 years (14 @JFO)
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)
Posts: 5068 | Registered: Dec 2011
Member # 35215
| Posted: 12:31 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013|
But the shit just doesn't go away.
Nope it doesn't for me either. My WH had a tantrum over it this morning too.
BS/FWS (me):42 Madhatter
WS/BS:45 Serial Cheater
Together 20 years, Married 15
DDay(s) Too many to count
Final Dday 7/11/14 Same OW2
Ducks in a Row!
"Never seek validation from those who are unworthy."
Posts: 3773 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: California
Member # 40280
| Posted: 12:52 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013|
It's about zig zagging. That's what I keep telling myself. Steps forward. Steps back. I'm just not sure which direction we are actually going...
Hang in there.
BS Me, age 48
WS, age 45
Five kids, ages K-college
Posts: 6 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: TX
Member # 38103
| Posted: 1:57 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013|
Same here. I am a few weeks shorten from d day as you. The last couple of weeks I have been a little down. Noting major to cause it - a few small possible reasons but not much. Even talked about this in MC yesterday. She said it it perfectly normal.
This may sound stupid but I actually thing some is due to the fact that I hate the end of summer. Outdoor person and the shorter colder days suck!
My take is with this BS shitstorm we are now much more aware of things we didn't notice before.
Me: BH, 44
Her: WW, 43
D day. January 12, 2013
Posts: 724 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Socal
Member # 39250
| Posted: 2:01 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013|
We are all there. My w & i have good times & then bam! I am so overly sensitive to anything she says. I sometimes over do it and blow things out of proportion but anger is a terrible force! I can relate to your post!
Posts: 71 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Houston
Member # 40133
| Posted: 8:25 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013|
I feel like I am on a roller coaster in the seventh circle of hell! The extremely happy to extremely sad moods are starting to take a toll on me, and I'm beginning to wonder if this is really worth it!
Me (BW): 34
SAFWH (1DumbHusband): 37
Married 7 years with 2 beautiful kiddos
BIG D-Day: June 17th, 2013
Too many freaking TTs that nearly cost us our marriage; currently in reconciliation.
"Love isn't a feeling, it's a decision."
Posts: 323 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Dallas, TX
Member # 37154
| Posted: 9:16 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013|
Trying, I've actually found that sometimes I would feel a letdown after a trip or good time together. My H even noticed a pattern where I would trigger and cause problems while in the airport on the way home. I suspect that I was reacting to heading back to reality and reality included dealing with the damn betrayal.
The last few months have gotten better, oddly after I unexpectedly took a trip back to my home state without my H. I was worried about it, but ended up feeling stronger after a week apart.
Give yourself a break, but perhaps try to think about the good times more and let them crowd out more of the yuck.
Posts: 2178 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: northeast
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