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Topic: Well, hot damn, he's doing it again, seven years later.
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scarredforever
♀ 23875
Member # 23875 |  Posted: 10:51 AM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013 |     |
I am so done. He is on POF, Plenty of Fish, for those of you who don't know.
I am just so done with this.
 
"Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it."
Mark Twain
Me-BS 52
Him-WS 53
Together 33 years
6-5-06 Day of Reckoning
"The acquired inability to escape"
Posts: 1061 | Registered: May 2009 | From: swfl |
doesitgetbetter
♀ 18429
Member # 18429 | | Posted: 10:52 AM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013 | |
DDay - Dec '07
Me - BS
Him - FWS
Us - Committed
May 18, 2010 - I forgave him fully!
"Behold, I have refined thee, but not with silver; I have chosen thee in the furnace of affliction." Isaiah 48:10
Posts: 3859 | Registered: Feb 2008 |
Tred
♂ 34086
Member # 34086 | | Posted: 10:54 AM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013 | |
Ouch...I'm sorry.
Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)
Posts: 4246 | Registered: Dec 2011 |
confused615
♀ 30826
Member # 30826 | | Posted: 10:54 AM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013 | |
Im so sorry.
(((((scarredforever)))))
BS(me)42
FWH 46
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
Posts: 8672 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana |
Getting to Happy
♀ 35200
Member # 35200 | | Posted: 10:55 AM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013 | |
What a drag!! I am so sorry.
Have you done the dreaded confrontation yet?
UGH!
WS him
BS me DD's 26, 25' DS 23
dd1 1-1-10, dd2 Mothers Day 2011, dd3 3-12-12 Hawaii trip with ho-worker...
Never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.
Unknown
Posts: 1200 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: La La Land |
LA44
♀ 38384
Member # 38384 | | Posted: 10:55 AM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013 | |
I am so sorry. And I don't blame you.
((scarredforever))
Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear
Posts: 2972 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh |
scarredforever
♀ 23875
Member # 23875 | | Posted: 11:01 AM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013 | |
no confrontation yet, I am kind of thinking why bother?
"Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it."
Mark Twain
Me-BS 52
Him-WS 53
Together 33 years
6-5-06 Day of Reckoning
"The acquired inability to escape"
Posts: 1061 | Registered: May 2009 | From: swfl |
confused615
♀ 30826
Member # 30826 | | Posted: 11:04 AM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013 | |
I agree...why bother?
Have him served. That will tell him all he needs to know.
BS(me)42
FWH 46
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
Posts: 8672 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana |
Sadwife222
♀ 40050
Member # 40050 | | Posted: 12:56 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013 | |
I agree. Serve him at work without warning.
Me BW, Him WH (sosorry54)
DD 4/12/13
TT until 9/18/14
Posts: 151 | Registered: Jul 2013 |
Knowing
♀ 37044
Member # 37044 | | Posted: 1:34 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013 | |
Thinking of you. Sending you wishes for strength and clarity. I'm so sorry this is happening in your life right now.
Me: BW, Him: fWH
Together 12 years
My EA (?) 2005-2011
His STA/PA: D-day: 19/09/12
TT: 08/12/12
We are in R.
Posts: 698 | Registered: Oct 2012 |
Rebreather
♀ 30817
Member # 30817 | | Posted: 1:36 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013 | |
Ugh! I am so sorry!!
Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi
Posts: 6834 | Registered: Jan 2011 |
tushnurse
♀ 21101
Member # 21101 | | Posted: 1:54 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013 | |
Suck. I'm sure that was a crushing moment.
I agree, have him served at work, and when he comes home he can find his shit in bags in the driveway. Oh yah, and change the locks.
I am so sorry....Sometimes you can't fix stupid.
Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy
Posts: 9210 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis |
nowiknow23
♀ 33226
Member # 33226 | | Posted: 1:55 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013 | |
Dammit.
(((((scarredforever)))))
You can call me NIK
“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.”
― Pema Chödrön
Posts: 28429 | Registered: Aug 2011 |
Audrina
♀ 31522
Member # 31522 |  Posted: 2:10 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013 | |
I am so sorry. :(
What are you going to do?
Me (betrayed): 35
Him:45
Posts: 276 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Canada |
jjsr
♀ 34353
Member # 34353 | | Posted: 2:44 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013 | |
I am sorry.
Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA
Trying to reconcile
Posts: 1698 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: midwest now. |
crazyblindsided
♀ 35215
Member # 35215 | | Posted: 3:29 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013 | |
I am sorry
BS/FWS (me):40 Madhatter
WS/BS:42 Serial Cheater
Together 18 years, Married 13
DD(10) DS(7)
DDay(s) 5/08 OW1, 5/09 OW1, 3/30/12 OW2
Final Dday 7/11/14 Same OW2
Posts: 2354 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: California |
kansas1968
♀ 32214
Member # 32214 | | Posted: 3:37 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013 | |
How horrible. I just cannot understand how a person could put their spouse through this again after they have seen the devastation that an affair causes. It is just beyond my comprehention.
The first time I think they just don't have a clue about how much damage cheating causes, but they damned well do after that.
So, so, sorry you have wasted six years with someone who obviously has no feelings. Hugs and good luck with your future.
Keep posting. We are always here to listen. 
Me - BS
Him - FWS
DD - December 14, 2010
Married 43 years 1/14/2011
Affair lasted 7+ years
Affair had been over for 2 years before I found out. OW sent me a letter.
Posts: 1322 | Registered: May 2011 | From: Kansas |
Audrina
♀ 31522
Member # 31522 | | Posted: 4:20 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013 | |
Thinking about you scarredforever.
This is my worst nightmare. I can't imagine how you are feeling.
But I know what I would do in your situation if it happened to me.
Honestly, I would send him packing. He doesn't deserve you. You are worth so much more.
Me (betrayed): 35
Him:45
Posts: 276 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Canada |
scarredforever
♀ 23875
Member # 23875 | | Posted: 4:21 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013 | |
Thanks everyone. I am just in disbelief. Bleh. I do deserve so much more.
"Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it."
Mark Twain
Me-BS 52
Him-WS 53
Together 33 years
6-5-06 Day of Reckoning
"The acquired inability to escape"
Posts: 1061 | Registered: May 2009 | From: swfl |
1Faith
♀ 38975
Member # 38975 | | Posted: 4:29 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013 | |
So so sorry.
But you are right. you do deserve so much more.
Be strong and know that no matter what you will be okay.
It will be hard but you will be okay.
You have already walked through the belly of hell.
Head up, shoulders back. You've done nothing wrong.
PS. I had no idea what POF was...I truly hate the internet and texting. So easy for cowards to hide. Why can't they grow up already? 
"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it." - Maya Angelou
Posts: 1483 | Registered: Apr 2013 |
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