Funny, how many of us seem to have different styles. My FWH is a clinger and I'm a cutter. He will cling to a relationship until the extremely bitter end, and then some. I hit a point where my brain goes CLICK, and I cut the person out of my life and its as if they never existed.
Which is somewhat interesting now, since he's terrorized that I will just walk at some point which leads to him trying to hide, placate, say only things that he things will please me, and minimize his dark places. While I, knowing that I can walk, am demanding nothing but the unvarnished truth, complete honesty, and the opening and airing out of old, musty, mold-encrusted places wherein lie demons.
Match made in heaven? Lawd knows!