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User Topic: update std testing..need feedback please
Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 8:29 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

K I did it. Test results in 2 days, if I don't get a phone call, I'm good to.
Now for the rashy bumps I have...
Dealing with 2 things. Yeast infection, which I don't ever get with the exception of 4 and that was first trimester of each pregnancy. So considering my yougest is 16: its been 16 yrs since I've dealt with that. However its just on my skin. Next he addressed the bumps kinda in pubic bone area and traveling up towards my lower abdomen. He said I've seen this type of rash with CRABS, but he didn't see any. He concluded with a dc of scabies..most likely. He said he's not a dermatologist so he cannot be 100% positive. I asked if it could have been passed from my ws. He said scabies doesn't usually appear in the pubic area but the signs of it are there. So when I asked again if my ws could have given to me since I've been nowhere, no hotels, no gym,no small kids..nada. He answered, use the cream for it and if it works, theres your answer.
So back to ws. He is still in daily contact with ow and has incorporated hook up sites for NSA sex into his daily web searches. I don't know if he's hooked up or just shopping for future.
So anyone know anything about this subject and do you think he's given me scabies that he's picked up from some skank or motel perhaps. Once again I have information but nothing that can say 100%. This isn't going tomake or break my M, its already over but just curious.
Also..I was stupid enough to have sex with him over 2 wks,ago...itching and bumps occurred maybe a week later. Thanks


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 5238 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 9:17 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Ostrich)))

I'm sorry you are going through this. Can you make an appt with a dermatologist?


Posts: 36451 | Registered: Mar 2011
MissMouseMo
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Default  Posted: 9:21 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry, sweetie. I went to WebMD and got this quote:

"Scabies usually is spread by close, intimate contact, such as sleeping in the same bed with or touching someone who has scabies. The scabies mite cannot fly or jump, and it moves very slowly. ...[They] move to the skin's surface and become adults within ~2 weeks."

There's a lot more info but I'll just give you the link to explore the other pages: http://www.webmd.com/skin-problems-and-treatments/tc/scabies-cause

((hugs))


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Posts: 381 | Registered: Feb 2013
krazy8516
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Default  Posted: 9:25 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I personally have been fortunate never to have more than yeast infections and "abnormal" paps. But I want to follow your story and I hope that it's nothing serious. I would drop my WH in a heartbeat if he ever gave me anything 'cause he couldn't keep it in his pants. Ugh, they're so selfish!!

::hugs:: to you!


me: BW, 30
him: WH, 25
us: edging closer to R every day

married 2y, together 2.5y
1 beautiful daughter, 23m

"Someday soon, I'm going to put my life together; Win or lose, I'm starting over again."


Posts: 368 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Texas
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 9:34 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Ostrich80)))

No more sex with him... things are obviously not right.

Keeping the good thoughts for negative test results.


"Sometimes people are mean, and sometimes things will be hard. One of your jobs is to try and make sure that that never makes you mean and hard, too." Cord Jefferson's Mom

Posts: 18298 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 10:02 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yea it was quite humiliating at my age asking for STD tests and told I have some effin critters.
I actually found scabies on web md when I started typing in my symptoms so I suspected. Upside is Dr said doest look anything like herpes which I was scared it may be. I hate his fucking guts for putting me in this sich. I hadn't had sex with him for months but I broke down and did..regretted immediately. FML

I have to say though, I am so glad I did go to Dr..I may get bad news later but I feel a huge weight off my shoulders by just taking the first big step.

[This message edited by Ostrich80 at 10:05 PM, August 22nd (Thursday)]


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 5238 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
cmego
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Default  Posted: 10:08 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just as an FYI...every time my ex had a new partner...I developed a yeast infection. It took me a while to put two and two together. It finally dawned on me when I caught him cheating the final time. We had sex only 1 time that final month...and sure enough I developed a yeast infection. I then found out he was cheating again. I confirmed with my GYN, anytime new germs are introduced in the vagina, it can cause a yeast infection.

If it were me, I would go to a dermatologist. I would want to know what kind of rash that may be!


me...BS, 44 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced


Posts: 4220 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
tryingmybest2011
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Default  Posted: 10:21 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Crabs and scabies are treatable and curable (says the lady who just deloused her sweet DD).

As for the yeast infection, I too had a fairly epic one when my WH was onto #2 and #3.

A thought - have you changed laundry detergent or soap lately? I ask because I thought I had scabies a few years back, and it turned out to be contact dermatitis. The rash looked identical. Likewise, I thought I was getting a yeast infection, and it turned out to be irritation from detergent. I truly am a delicate flower.

Sorry you're going through this.


BS: me - 37
WH: him - 37
DD: 8
DD: 11 mos

Married over 9 years, together for 18.

DD#1: 12/12/10 - LTA of 3 years, 2 mos.
DD#2: 02/02/11 - 2 EA/PA with coworkers, a month after the LTA was ended (by OW).

In limbo.


Posts: 323 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: Ontario Canada
purplejacket4
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Default  Posted: 10:21 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Google molloscum and see if that's what it looks like.


Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

Posts: 2300 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Great Southwest
Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 11:51 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

At first I thought it was a new fabric softener because I switched. I stopped using it on my lingerie but the problem worsened. That's the only new thing.I've used. Dr pretty much confirmed the yeast thing but that's interesting info ^^^^^ because I don't get those. I've actually always had a very health vag : of course when you have a ws that can change. I've been M over 25 yrs...never in my wildest thought I would be dealing with this.


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 5238 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
Ostrich80
34827
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Default  Posted: 12:05 AM, August 23rd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

@purplejacket...kind of but not really. These look different. When I google scabies...looks just like it


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 5238 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
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