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User Topic: Move over Romeo...
♀ 38650
Member # 38650
Default  Posted: 8:31 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My WH needs to speak. The reason this week we should stay married, "I know you'll never trust me again"..and "I've done some really shitty stuff to you and I want to make it up to you." Somehow I am not moved. I don't think either is a good reason to stay in a marriage. Am I being cruel here? Does this make sense to anyone?

Posts: 247 | Registered: Mar 2013
♀ 39734
Member # 39734
Default  Posted: 8:45 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sounds like some really good reasons to me, NOT!

He says he wants to stay married because you'll never trust him again?? yeah, seems like a good reason to me. Is he doing anything to try to earn your trust back?

Yeah, he has done some shitty stuff (if your here I am assuming he has, I haven't read your story) At least he admits that, but what is he doing to make it up to you?

What really gets me is I don't hear any "I love you" in there. Sounds like pure laziness. You know what he is, he doesn't want to have to put on an act for someone else.

Ok, so I am not in the best of moods tonight. Nothing to do with Dh, but I probably should just keep my mouth shut and sit in the corner.

Married 8yrs
Together 11 1/2
Me~ 3 kids, 21,17,14
Him~no kids
A with a mutual "friend" for 2+yrs
He confessed 9/9/12
A was over 2/12
7/13~ Happier than we have been in yrs!

Posts: 240 | Registered: Jul 2013
♀ 38541
Member # 38541
Default  Posted: 8:54 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

They may be reasons *he* wants to stay married, but how about he give some really good reasons as to why *you* should stay married to him?

Posts: 154 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Australia
♀ 39971
Member # 39971
Default  Posted: 6:31 AM, August 23rd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Agreeing with AppleBlossom. Do you have a good reason to stay married to him. Has he given you any GOOD reason and followed it up with action.
His speech is a fail.
Ask him to try again - and put in some effort. You're worth it!!

Me BS (41)
Him WH (45). EA and possible PA (denied)
D Day 7/21/2013
M 8 years - filing for D

**The cruelest lies are often told in silence- Robert Louis Stevenson

Posts: 115 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: New Zealand
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