It is not a giant problem, but it is a chronic one. I share a similar one.
My wifes AP drops his kids off at school the same time my wife does. This is how there affair spawned.
He continues to park his truck between our home and the school. Everyday my wife runs the chance of seeing him...like your husband does his AP. I understand your situation is more constant....my run-ins only happen around 8 am and 3 pm. One of the reasons we bought the home we bought was it is 2 blocks from school...my wife stays home with the kids...she could and does walk them to school.
I have thought about selling our home and moving...just haven't done that....just not sure it will fix what is broken. I have known families to move to get kids out of drugs...only to find they get into drugs at the new town.
It would be nice to get away from triggers....which abound thanks to my wifes active affair life....but is that dispelling a symptom while ignoring the cause?
I seriously don't have an answer for myself or you. Just letting you know I share your concern.
Ultimately, if my wife and I can rise to a level of maturity neither of us has seen before....all of this is a moot point. Right now...at 10:05 pm august 22, 2013...we have much growing to do.
I pray you are further along this maturity scale.
God be with us all.
[This message edited by blakesteele at 10:07 PM, August 22nd (Thursday)]