Please make sure you drink water and eat something. You need to make sure your body has enough to keep going on.
It's a long dark tunnel but there is always a light at the end...somewhere!
emotionalgirl your last sentence reminded me of something that gives me a tickle every time I think of it. My Dad was suffering through a bout of depression. In an effort to cheer him up I said, "Daddy, there IS a light at the end of the tunnel" He replied, "I KNOW there's a light. It's the f***ing locomotive BEHIND that light that has me worried!"
As others have said..take care of you. 180 if you are not doing so already.
Take care of you! Eat, Drink water, go to the gym or run. Take control of your own destiny and take the focus off of him. This is what saved me and my marriage. Take care of YOU! You will be treated by others how you treat yourself.
Good luck to you.
When I first found out I was a hysterical, crying, emotional wreck.
Lost 30lbs in 5 weeks via the devastation diet
And my FWH would sleep like the dead. Many times I had thoughts of taking the iron and bludgeoning him with it while he slept so peacefully.
Talk to your doctor about antidepressants and perhaps sleeping pills.
This news takes its toll on your body, mind and soul.
You need to eat and sleep even when you feel it is impossible.
Now the focus is on YOU. Do what you need to do to start healing.
Sending hugs and prayers to you.
1Faith couldn't have said it better. I lost 15 lbs. on the devastation diet also in the first 3-4 months.
See your doctor, don't be afraid to explain the situation, and get whatever meds. you need to ride things out until you get to the other side. Lunesta has done wonders for me.
Anti-anxiety meds help greatly also!
It really will get (a bit) easier with time. I also found that you have to be careful who you share with, because sometimes people who aren't going through this have opinions that you can't deal with. I am so thankful I found out about this site...it has helped immensely!
Take care of you!!! Sending good thoughts and peaceful nights your way!!!
I am in your shoes also. Only 2 weeks our from Dday & he's sleeping & eating just fine!! I've lost 10lbs already, the only sleep I've had has been courtesy of tylenol pm and it was brief.
Although it's hard to try and take care of yourself right now, even though that is what all the experienced posters here say, I know that's what we need to do. So best luck that you can try and focus on YOU!!! XOXO Hugs and I feel your pain (literally!)