WH has our DD over tonight to talk and basically give his side of the story (is what it appears anyway)
She tells me everything, mostly because she is tired of the situation herself. She's 18 now and has other things she's thinking about these days.
WH told our daughter tonight that during the whole post dday day fallout the past year, that he has never gotten angry at me once, and the one time he did a few days ago, now I'm giving him the silent treatment.
He also found it necessary to tell DD that he and OW had a "real " relationship and he just couldn't choose between us. (up until last week even!)
I didn't say this to DD but I want to call WH and say "your REAL relationship with OW caused REAL pain to me and DD, and you are now getting a REAL divorce because of it"
He had to legitimize the A to DD apparently at least in his mind. DD still doesn't care and didn't really want to talk about it with him. But she patiently listened.
She has been great. She told me the other day that I need to move on from this situation because she wants to see me happy. She herself is fed up with the OW nonsense.
[This message edited by Spelljean at 1:51 AM, August 23rd (Friday)]
WH: 41
me: BS, 45
Together 18 1/2 years, married 17
DDAY 8/2/12
OW: EA- friend of 4 months
Status: separated