He went to counselling, booked an appointment the day after I found out and went every week for months.
He finally opened up to me about the abuse he suffered as a child.
He gave me full details on everything, including the infidelity during his first marriage.
He asked me what *I* needed to help me work through this and then gave it to me.
He showed patience and love every time I triggered, got upset, had more questions, or the same questions.
He gives me his phone any time I ask for it. He forwards me work emails that may impact our personal life, such as overnight work trips. He sends me photos of himself when I am worried and dont know exactly where he is.
He apologised every time this came up, as if the apology was the first time he made it.
He let me talk and explore my own feelings, he really listened.
he has acknowledged his mistakes to his family and to some of my friends.
He has suggested couples counselling now that we are engaged, and has made the appointment for us.
He opened his heart to me finally, and learned that while real love is scary, it lso keeps you safe.
The big one for me - he apologised to my kids for upsetting me. He told them he was going to work really hard on his issues. He assured them he loved me and wanted me to be happy.