Any suggestions on how to "survive" the day?
**The cruelest lies are often told in silence- Robert Louis Stevenson
My first piece of advice is to schedule something for yourself that you will enjoy. I had an hour-long aromatherapy massage. Ahhhhh.
Unexpectedly, though, I woke up that morning in an optimistic mood. I thought more about the good things that had happened in the last year rather than the devastation I felt on D-Day.
FWH and I had a conversation that was partly painful and partly uplifting. Even though we still have issues to work out regarding the past, I found that looking towards the future helped.
I will add that FWH is remorseful and has been fully NC, and our relationship is better than it's been for quite a while. If that were not the case, focusing on the positive would not have been possible.
D-Day: August 14, 2012
9 year LTA with former co-worker and family "friend"/7 years EA+PA, 2 more years EA
It also felt good to move forward from counting the days since d-day in months. Now I had that bigger chunk behind me.
So for me, it wasn't anything really special I did for myself, it was more mental exercises that got me through.
Good luck and take care.
You and I have the same D-Day (which falls on a Sunday), so maybe get out of town with a friend?
SBS, funny, I read your post and when you said or D day lands on a Sunday, immediately thought.."No! It was a Saturday! And it was pouring rain.I remember it clearly." Heh, then I realized you were talking about the upcoming 22ND. Lol.
Funny how things stick to ya.
Thanks for the ideas and encouragement all.