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A week ago I found a number in wh's cell that I didn't recognize. When I googled it one site gave a map, and it was supposedly for an online adult toy store. When I searched escorts a site came up with a list in that city. All but 2 of the services on that list come up as that same store.

I've been digging for a week, and I couldn't find any kind of catalog for this supposed store. Today I was suddenly able to find their site. At the bottom of the page it says that it was customer certified by bizrate with today's date. ETA: But in the about us section it says they've supposedly been online since 1995. When I go to bizrate they don't have anything about this store. When I search for their type of products none of them are from that store.

I don't have anything more concrete than this for him doing anything wrong yet. But I am going to call at least one of the numbers. Would you confront your wh yet or would you keep digging for something more solid to bust him with?

[This message edited by whatnow8 at 2:57 PM, August 23rd (Friday)]

Personally I would keep digging

Keep looking.

Don't confront yet, keep digging for sure. He will just gaslight you and make you think you're crazy, then he'll get more sneaky.

Thank you all, that's what my gut is telling me too. I just don't know how much longer I can keep this to myself. I'm starting to have anxiety attacks, I'm getting dizzy, can't focus on things, it's hard to breathe, my shoulders neck and chest are all really tight.

I don't even know what else to look for or where to look at this point. I'm not good with computers and I'm surprised I found as much as I did. Any suggestions would be great.

And now this week we've gotten 4 calls from a blocked number. They ask for him and then hang up even when he's the one answering. It's a man's voice but that doesn't mean anything. It's making me effing crazy.

[This message edited by whatnow8 at 5:56 PM, August 23rd (Friday)]

No keep digging. Ransack his car. Check all his Viza and bank statements. Check history on all devices. Check his dirty pant pockets. Jacket pockets. Don't confront him until U have good hard evidence.

I can get the details for my home phone, can you?

Keep digging. You'll find it.

Nothing in the car. We don't have credit cards. I go over the bank stuff every week. I'm going to check into getting the phone records after he leaves today. But I know I can't get info on the anonymous calls that keep showing up. We have pre-paid cell phones, so I only have access to whatever he doesn't delete on there. I can't check history on the ps3 and that's a huge irritation to me.

He works a lot of overtime, and it is always on his check. But he's so good at this. My worry is that he'll be somewhere legitimate, like the gas station, with a receipt to prove why he was late. But that doesn't mean he didn't stop somewhere nearby. He gets cash for the weekends he works, and the guys all put their money together to buy lunch. At this point that's the only way I can figure that he could be paying for someone. Putting aside the cash instead of buying lunch. And then I'll never have hard evidence unless I hire someone to follow him.

Maybe I am just paranoid.

[This message edited by whatnow8 at 9:31 AM, August 24th (Saturday)]