There is nothing easy about this! The 180 is hard, especially with the roller coaster. One minute you feel strong, you can do this, and the next minute it takes everything out of you not to communicate with them. Knowing that its about our ws, and not us, and that while we are hurt we want the chance to work on things, and they don't. This is when I start to feel like I am not good enough, and that this other person is, because he continues to choose her over me, over our family. My guess, is that they are still in the fog, they are not ready to give up their A, and until they want to, there is not much we can do. The 180 helps us, to help ourselves. Ultimately we can't make their choices for them, but we can make choices for our self.
Today is day 6 of the 180 for me. It's not easy, but I can say that pushing myself to concentrate on me, has made me feel a little bit better. I don't necessarily want to do the things that I am doing, but I am forcing myself to do them. Staying busy has helped me keep my mind off of everything else, the questions, the thoughts, the feelings, his lack of all of the above.
Take each day at a time, and if you have to break the day into hours or minutes, you do that. You do what you have to, to get through each day.